Too picky!

[Princesssuperstar]

Hey...... So I'm 38, still single and fretting I'm going to be alone forever
My problem is I keep finding fault. Just the tiniest fault! I know I'm never going to find Mr perfect but I want my mr perfect but knowing my luck I'll be 80 when that happens (😂)
I've always been unwanted.... Parents put me in care, carers didn't want me, previous partners didn't want me they just liked that I work n wanted my money (it's min wage job so after bills there's nothing left so they left when I wasnt their cash cow)
Question is..... Am I too fussy or do I just accept the little flaws?

It's really hard to say without some examples, OP. You absolutely should have standards but you're right that Mr 100% flawless doesn't exist.

I wonder if, given your history, you are finding trivial reasons to reject men before they reject you, because you still fear being the unwanted one. Apologies for this being a trite question/suggestion, but have you had/sought/considered counselling?

That's literally me! I think I do it in fear of more rejection
It makes me quite upset knowing this is the situation but I'll always have it unfortunately

I have been getting therapy (second year now)

It's an impossible question to answer in general. It depends if you are deciding not to date a man who lives in a basement, doesn't wash, expects his Mum to do all his laundry and spits on the carpet (definitely don't go there.....) or whether you are deciding not to date a man who is lovely, kind, solvent, interesting, emotionally available, but has a green v-neck jumper that you loathe (probably you being too picky).