FIL visiting, staying with us for 3 weeks. We live in an expensive holiday destination so DP is showing him around. Wonderful. Except we have a 5 month old baby who doesn't sleep very well and so far FIL's visit has meant:
- more tidying and cooking for me
- less help from DP especially in the evenings which is the worst time with a baby, as DP is taking FIL for drinks and dinners. I have to stay home with baby for bedtime. He's a grouchy baby after 6 pm. The newborn days where we could take him out for dinners are over.
- zero personal space as FIL is here all day (small house)
- losing my car (FIL uses it to get around, there is zero public transport or taxi here and a rental is $1k a week). To be fair FIL is happy to drive me to baby groups etc but it's not the same as having free use of my car.
- losing use of our only spare bedroom (so I can't shower in the spare bathroom when baby is asleep etc, no big deal, but inconvenient)
- lots of stress as they want to take baby out too but that means more work for me, timing his naps just right, packing shit, breastfeeding in public but baby is soooo distracted he doesn't feed properly etc
MIL died last year after a long illness. She was a gem. DH is still devastated and I want him to have a nice time with FIL, it means so much to him.
But it's all sort of at my expense, any advice? I just have to suck it up but I'm 4 days in and already exhausted.
If I got more than 4 hours of broken sleep in the last 5 months I'd likely be able to go with the flow more.