'Shes the prettiest out of all of your kids'

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 18/01/2025 20:54

yes, that was bloody weird. And rude.

Squidtentacles · 18/01/2025 20:55

Yes, very weird to say.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 18/01/2025 20:55

YANBU. Very weird and very rude.

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PinkChaires · 18/01/2025 20:57

Whoops cut me off,now dd1 is feeling a bit insecure so it just makes me angry

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MyProudHare · 18/01/2025 21:30

It is weird, yes.

ItsAlwaysSunnyInMyDreams · 18/01/2025 23:08

Horrible thing to say. Did you say anything? Please re-assure your already insecure daughter that it's not true and that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I still remember the time my mum came home and laughingly decided to share the story that as she was picking my sister up from swimming lesson she asked this guy from the team if they've seen her daughter to which he replied "which one, the young one or the beautiful one?". I must have been 9 or 10 but I still remember the sting and I've always felt insecure compared to my sister as a compleltely different build (she was always very slim, I more stocky). "Innocent" comments like these can have lifelong impacts!

ElfAndSafetyBored · 18/01/2025 23:12

Weird and unnecessary.

sunshineandshowers40 · 18/01/2025 23:14

Very odd.

Doloresparton · 18/01/2025 23:20

ItsAlwaysSunnyInMyDreams · 18/01/2025 23:08

Horrible thing to say. Did you say anything? Please re-assure your already insecure daughter that it's not true and that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I still remember the time my mum came home and laughingly decided to share the story that as she was picking my sister up from swimming lesson she asked this guy from the team if they've seen her daughter to which he replied "which one, the young one or the beautiful one?". I must have been 9 or 10 but I still remember the sting and I've always felt insecure compared to my sister as a compleltely different build (she was always very slim, I more stocky). "Innocent" comments like these can have lifelong impacts!

My aunty told my 8 year old dsis that she was pretty.
Then she looked at me, I was 10, and said you’re not pretty but you’re attractive and it will last you longer.
I felt so upset, I didn’t want to be attractive, I wanted to be pretty.
Adults can be so mean to dc.

I’ve spent the rest of my life taking care over my looks and dsis has never bothered.
So being attractive has lasted me longer but that’s likely because I was self conscious about my looks.

Notgivenuphope · 18/01/2025 23:23

Teach her to give an eyeroll and say oh well, good job I am the smartest then.

BlossomOfOrange · 18/01/2025 23:30

Yes, very weird.

Someone said something along the same lines about my youngest some years ago, when kids were toddlers. Something like ‘they’re all lovely but this one, well look at her face, you have to agree she’s beautiful’. Still makes me react many years later.

Choccyscofffy · 18/01/2025 23:53

She was probably trying to compliment your baby and had a brain fart.

I wouldn’t over think it, she thinks your children are beautiful and that your baby is beautiful. Win win.

Justleaveitblankthen · 19/01/2025 00:11

Doloresparton · 18/01/2025 23:20

My aunty told my 8 year old dsis that she was pretty.
Then she looked at me, I was 10, and said you’re not pretty but you’re attractive and it will last you longer.
I felt so upset, I didn’t want to be attractive, I wanted to be pretty.
Adults can be so mean to dc.

I’ve spent the rest of my life taking care over my looks and dsis has never bothered.
So being attractive has lasted me longer but that’s likely because I was self conscious about my looks.

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Were these both the same sister?
Because if this sister was the "young one" then you were the beautiful one surely? 🤔

WiseAdviceNeededPlease · 12/10/2025 06:29

What a very weird thing to say, some people are messed up.

AprilinPortugal · 12/10/2025 07:52

PinkChaires · 18/01/2025 20:57

Whoops cut me off,now dd1 is feeling a bit insecure so it just makes me angry

Incredibly rude! Reminds me of when my grandad said the same about one of my cousins ..."she's the prettiest out of all the girls" it stung then and at 62 I still remember it...mind you he turned out to be right, she is 😆 doesn't bother me in the slightest now of course but did as a small child. Why oh why is it ok to comment on a girl's looks like that. He didn't say anything about the boys' looks!

Butchyrestingface · 12/10/2025 07:57

It was rude but also downright weird to compare the level of beauty between older kids (including one nearly an adult) and a six month old baby. Like comparing apples and oranges, surely?

It's hard to imagine a 17 year old feeling insecure about not being perceived as 'beautiful' as a 6 month old. But maybe I've just forgotten what it's like to be 17. .

SpottedDeer · 13/10/2025 22:58

PinkChaires · 18/01/2025 20:53

Aibu to think this is a weird comment?
I was in a shopping centre and had met one of dd2s friends mum whilst the girls went off by themselves. They saw my baby dd (6 months) for the first time and she said that ' baby dd was the most beautiful of all my kids' ( i have 4 children) whilst my dd1 (17) was right there. I think its a weird thing to say, especially since i dont think so and baby DD looks exactly like my son and dd1

If one child is 17 and the other one is 6 months old I'd assume the 6 month old was the 17 year old's child out with the grandparents. Weird that she even assumed the baby was yours instead of the 17 year old's.

Pay no mind to the comments about looks. Looks are overrated. If you're very beautiful you'll be harassed by men and hated/bullied by other women all your life. If you're very ugly you'll struggle to find someone to pair up with and may be bullied for being gross looking. Most people are in the mid-range. But really who cares?

Dogmaz · 13/10/2025 23:02

Choccyscofffy · 18/01/2025 23:53

She was probably trying to compliment your baby and had a brain fart.

I wouldn’t over think it, she thinks your children are beautiful and that your baby is beautiful. Win win.

Yh this was my thought.. she stumbled over her words trying to say the most beautiful baby she had ever seen or something like that

FunnyOrca · 13/10/2025 23:06

Very odd.

Even if you were to objectively say which child was “prettier” how do you compare a 17yo and 6mo? Weird.

SpottedDeer · 13/10/2025 23:09

Doloresparton · 18/01/2025 23:20

My aunty told my 8 year old dsis that she was pretty.
Then she looked at me, I was 10, and said you’re not pretty but you’re attractive and it will last you longer.
I felt so upset, I didn’t want to be attractive, I wanted to be pretty.
Adults can be so mean to dc.

I’ve spent the rest of my life taking care over my looks and dsis has never bothered.
So being attractive has lasted me longer but that’s likely because I was self conscious about my looks.

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Sorry but this is pathetic. Think how many hours you've wasted. When you're dead what will you have contributed to the world? Looking pretty? Pointless.

maudelovesharold · 13/10/2025 23:26

Justleaveitblankthen · 19/01/2025 00:11

Were these both the same sister?
Because if this sister was the "young one" then you were the beautiful one surely? 🤔

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You’re replying to @Doloresparton but ‘The young one or the beautiful one’ was @ItsAlwaysSunnyInMyDreams