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Exaggerating

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waych · 18/01/2025 19:42

It’s mainly my kids. What I mean is, they keep track of how much food or snacks everyone eats. For instance, if we have some cookies, they’ll point out, "He’s had 2 cookies, she’s had 2, he’s had 3," and then make a big deal out of it and argue over a few snacks. This kind of thing happens all the time, and weekends are the worst for this. It feels pointless because keeping count only leads to hassle and arguments. If someone misses out, they can just have more next time or something like that.

On top of that, my kids are always shouting across the house when they want something or need me. It’s really fustrating and gets on my nerves. It’s not just that they shout, but the loud, disturbing tone they use. I’ve told them to just call or text me instead, but they say that’s lazy. Isn’t that a bit hypocritical though? Shouting across the house is lazy too. I just don’t like being shouted at from across the house, especially when I’m already on my way to them, and they’re still shouting as if I’m not coming. It really pisses me off, so sometimes I just ignore them. It’s bad for the neighbors too, because I’m pretty sure they can hear the shouting through the walls. I know this might happen in other houses, but I really don’t like it and find it incredibly fustrating like it's like breaching the peace in the house like it's some playground.

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Simbaonedaythiswillallbeyours · 18/01/2025 19:46

I ignore my DC yelling at me. They can walk to where I am and speak to me like a person, not a dog.

ClearHoldBuild · 18/01/2025 19:50

How old are they? If calling or texting is lazy (which they’re right, it is) tell them to find you to speak to you as you won’t respond to being yelled for.

RedSkyDelights · 18/01/2025 19:53

How old?

If they are at an age where treats like cookies are rationed, then why wouldn't you give them all the same number?

I wouldn't accept shouting across the house. But neither would I expect calls or texts unless you live in a 50 bedroom mansion. They get up and come and find me, or they don't get listened to. (unless an emergency obviously, which is the reason that they need not to shout in normal circumstances).

waych · 18/01/2025 20:01

14 and 17

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YourOpalDeer · 18/01/2025 20:03

What does this have to do with exaggerating?

Laszlomydarling · 18/01/2025 20:21

Just ignore them shouting. Only speak to them when they're in the same room. And only answer when they speak in a respectful way.

Divide all packs of snacks into named tubs, so each family member gets the same, and it's up to them when they eat it. Might seem daft, but solves the problem of some family members taking more than their fair share.

Endofyear · 18/01/2025 23:04

14 and 17? I'd tell them both to grow up and shut up if they're bickering over snacks - if they don't stop the childish behaviour, stop buying the snacks. The shouting is unacceptable if it disturbs the neighbours - and it's annoying for you. Tell them firmly you are not responding to shouting and if they want to speak to you, they have to come to you. Then ignore the shouting completely. Be firm and stick to your guns.

ManchesterLu · 18/01/2025 23:13

waych · 18/01/2025 20:01

14 and 17

My goodness I was expecting 5/6 year olds. This is pathetic at their age.

CatsndtheBear · 18/01/2025 23:21

I won't respond if shouted at. People can come find me in the room I am in. Just completely ignore and they will get the message soon.

Re snacks... Give them a shelf each. Portion snacks into containers, when they have eaten theirs for the week then they have to suck it up.

Easy solutions :)

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