Chubby Mum aged 40

[Lavenderfarmcottage]

Three glasses of Rose’ and midnight on a balmy night in Australia.

Sorry for using AIBU & MN as my therapy this last month. I can’t afford a real therapist.

Chubby, aged 40, seperated 5 years and haven’t been brave enough to date.

Anxiety, ptsd, emotional eater. Will I ever be slim and beautiful and know what real love & passionate sex is or is it too late.

Is 40 too late for a makeover and to find love. It worries me ill go through my whole life with very few romantic memories.

Most people argue because they're trying to to resolve a conflict, because they feel they're not being heard so try to put their point across more forcefully. Sounds like your ex wasn't one of those people. He wasn't interested in going for the win, he preferred to go for the hurt.

Which means you can't trust a word he ever said. He wanted to wound you, so he took the thing he knew you were insecure about, and used it as a weapon. If you hated your teeth, then he'd have used that. If you were concerned you weren't as smart as him, then that's the angle he'd have gone for. Instead he went for your weight, because he knew that was the best way to twist the knife.

You said it yourself, you were never slim. If he'd actually thought your weight was that unattractive, he'd never have gone for you in the first place.