Overwhelming situation

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

So my week has been intense. Went on a date last werk. Didn’t go as I hoped. Made me a bit sad bit it’s one of those I just needed the week to get through it as we’d been talking for a while and Just had a blip of a disagreement. I’ve also started a new project with a friend with a new business which is stressful.

When stuff goes wrong I often just go a bit insular. Anyway. One of my friends had texted me on Monday and mentally I was struggling to reply to anyone and crying more often than usual. Then Tuesday she texted me again and sent me an instagram reel so I replied and said I’m just a bit unwell. Then texted again on Thursday asking if I was ok. Then texted again on Friday saying she thinks she has the same.

im just a bit overwhelmed. I can’t explain it but I feel I can’t even reply right now it just feels too much. Aibu

Neither of you is being unreasonable, she is concerned, you are overwhelmed. When she texts again, don't tell her you're unwell, tell her you are overwhelmed with other things in your life and that you're going to retreat for a while and won't be answering messages, and that you're sure that, as a good friend, she will understand.

I feel like it’s just been slightly overwhelming. Mentally I think like a man, I can’t be bombarded because it just puts me in freeze mode.

Monday the messages were like “I always tried to be a good friend to jenny she never accepted my attempts. I did x,y z to support and I was looking through the messages and I know how much she manipulated me” and I’m also dealing with my own stuff while reading this. Then I got another one after that about how annoyed she became reading the messages. So I did reply then and say it’s best to leave Jen alone we just gave up with her and she did with all her friends. No need to dwell and let’s just accept her choices.

then got another message about how she felt emotionally. And I then had to say I’d been under the weather.

sjnce that I’ve struggled to reply because I’ve gone into freeze mode. Don’t want anyone to think I’m not listening but sometimes I just can’t.

This happens to me a lot - do you have ADHD?

I do. I sometimes get stressed when others don’t responsd but I personally have nothing to give when my own cup is empty.

It’s awkward isn’t it. I will “heart” a message if I can’t reply. My main tip is phase out friends that text you drama all the time. You have to save your energy for what matters.

You’re going to have to get some kind of trauma therapy for that freeze response, sadly it gets worse.

I’m trying to get therapy just not finding the right therapist is tricky☹️