Partners hobby annoys me

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So the title is a bit misleading because it doesn't annoy me the majority of the time but it mean he is gone alot most weekends. I'm 28 weeks pregnant with a 2 year old and I have Sciatica and recently horrible headaches. He had a 4 hour run planned since last week obviously this was fine when it was planned. This morning when his alarm was going off at 4.30am and he couldn't hear it so our DC woke up just after 5 and he needed to leave as soon as. I woke up with a terrible headache, I was up most of the night with back pain and leg cramps and DC was having a hard time because she didn't want her Daddy to go.

He got his back up because I was in a mood about the situation. Like he thinks I have a problem with his running, I don't. I just thought it was all a bit much this morning and probably came across selfish. I ended up giving DC my phone for YouTube and going back to bed for an hour l, got her up to eat and I had to lay in bed because my head was splitting. On top of this he has the car and I need to get some things in the shop but walking is so tough right now with my back pain. I'm just feeling hard done by maybe.

So how do I explain it's not the hobby I have a problem with? Maybe it's a bit of jealousy as hes with his mates and will probably go for breakfast etc after and I'm really struggling at home. We both work full time too and he does try to make his runs for early in the morning so hes not gone alot but I'm noticing that after the week, I really need a lay in. Am I just being a nag?

This morning when his alarm was going off at 4.30am and he couldn't hear it so our DC woke up just after 5

What a selfish twat your "d"h sounds. Is he generally an unthinking arse?

But today unfortunately he has a 40 minute drive to get to the starting point of the run, then after 4 or so hours, a sauna and cold bath then after that probably breakfast. Lol.

It's not funny. God, the longer I'm on MN the more and more I appreciate my lovely non-selfish dh who is very boring and doesn't have "hobbies". It's funny how mens hobbies always take them away from their young families for large chunks of the weekend isn't it? And it's usually non-negotiable and backed up by a wife desperately trying to be cool and not a "nag".

And if he queries it, as he has a banging headache, remember to tell him to stop nagging.

Why is he running for Four hours ??? Is he running with someone else. This sounds a bit sus to me sorry

I think if he's usually doing it so early that it's out of the way and he's back to help (and assuming the toddler is generally asleep when he goes- not woken by the alarm!) if he can somehow make sure not to have the alarm wake the toddler, and he's back around 9 if it's 4 hours?that's plenty of time to give you a break in the day. BUT when his alarm woke the toddler and you weren't feeling well,.that was when he should have changed plans and stayed home to care for the toddler and let you rest (and like others mentioned maybe get checked just in case)

Is he training for something like a marathon? I remember my dad running the 15miles home from work (public transport there) so that it minimised the time out.

But definitely see someone about headaches.