Would this annoy you or am I overacting?

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DD overheard BIL slagging off our new fireplace to FIL. Apparently he said “have you heard they’ve got a new fireplace it’s not a very good one though” then he caught DD listening and smiled and said hey as he knew she was listening.

MIL&FIL have also had a fireplace put in so I feel as he was referring to ours probably isn’t as good as theirs

This isn’t the first time he’s done something like this as he’s an incredibly jealous person.

Ive invited him for a week away for my birthday and now I don’t even want him there.

I know it’s just a bloody fireplace but if anything it just feels hurtful.

I'd imagine it's not so much about the fireplace for the op, but rather that the bil is making comments behind their back. I can't stand these type of people. I know it's infuriating op, but you know what type of person he is, so rise above it. Nothing sorts out these people faster than not rising to the bait

Why on earth are you so enmeshed with your BIL? I realise from your post that he hasn't got any friends but even so. Most people don't take their BILs on holiday with them. I assume your DH feels responsible for him so you need to have a firm talk with him. This is a silly situation but you surely know that.

He sounds like a bellend - eventually he'll say something he can't come back from and you'll have your excuse to distance yourself

I'd piss myself laughing and then loudly criticise their fireplace the next time I went round. "It's a bit shit, isn't it? Fire power isn't great, not to mention the rockery bit".

Maybe he is short of things to talk about so makes up things he thinks will please people. Like basically saying FiL’s fire is better than yours etc.

Honestly sounds like you all need to back off and stop being so enmeshed with him he will never get a life if he is always living yours

I would not give his comments any headspace

I get it. My FIL is like this. I used to like him but don’t now. It’s small things but allll the time. You get to the point where it annoys you so it’s best to disengage as much as possible. I don’t tell him anything and don’t invite him anywhere.

Oh come on. If you had a friend over for a cuppa, how many household items would she need to slag off of yours before it starting dawning on you that she's a massive dick. Or because they're inanimate objects would you be quite content with this?

Why do you care what this odious, inadequate little creature thinks?

What sort of man bitches when his brother and his wife don’t invite him on their family holiday? That’s a weird AF expectation. And why have you now folded and invited him to come away with you? 😵‍💫

Is your H’s family weirdly enmeshed?

Ok you have got to nip this in the bud. It’s incredibly weird.

Dude it’s a fireplace. You were happy with your choice and bought it so why on earth do you care about the opinion of a jealous family member.

Let it go.

If it’s more than this confront him about his behaviour and says it’s enough. Otherwise, he will continue, you will
be annoyed and nothing will ever change.

I think you have a family dynamics issue

why is your dh not breaking away from their manipulative brother

It isn't the first time he's slagged off your possessions?

Can you actually hear yourself 😂😂😂

Grow up and just ignore these inconsequential tidbits he spouts.

It's really weird to go on holiday with some bloke who manipulates you all with the silent treatment.

Put a framed photo of the fireplace next to his bed.