To not want to keep taking neighbours parcels

[micharose]

My neighbour orders stuff knowing that she will be at work and quite a few times now they have been left with me.

I don't mind doing this a few times to help her out but now it's turning into a regular occurrence.

A driver came today and I didn't open the door as I a would be going out with the kids and didn't want to be waiting in to give her parcel to her.

AIBU?

Just put a note on your door saying you won’t accept packages not addressed to you.

Why would you have to wait in to give her parcel to her? I'd say the onus is on your neighbour to come and collect it from you.

But either way if you don't want to take them on, just leave a note on your door as PP suggested.

The onus is definitely on her to collect. I get a few for my neighbour, but then often they don't deliver on the day they said they would. I WhatsApp her when I get one and she without fail drops round on her way home from work and is grateful. We get on, so it's no biggie to me. We'd arrange a time for her to pop by if I were going to be out at that time.

If i didnt like her, or thought there was piss taking going on, I'd not take them in.

YANBU but if you do take in a package it's up to your neighbour to come and collect. If you're not in they'll have to come back. Not sure why you need to wait in for anything.

We've stopped accepting parcels for our neighbour. Similarly it was once or twice to begin with, but soon they were going away for a week at a time and our record was 9 parcels which they knew would all arrive while they were away.

They also never reach out to collect them and on the very rare occasion they've had to take a parcel for us or the other neighbours they haven't told us they've got our parcel to begin with - our other neighbour ended up getting a refund from the company only to discover next door had been holding onto it for 3 weeks 🤦🏻‍♀️ (We don't get the cards here if something is delivered elsewhere). We now specify with Evri and DPD that we don't want items to be delivered there.

I don't think it's unreasonable to not take any more in OP.

Either take the parcel and she gets it back at your convenience or say no to the delivery person . Why on earth would you stay in just in case she wanted to collect her parcel .

Don't ever wait in to give her parcels! YANBU but it sounds like there is potential here for redrawing the boundaries to make it much less annoying, without flat our refusing, if you don't want to do the latter.

Don't take them in any longer if it's inconvenient. Tell her it doesn't suit you. Problem sorted.

I stopped taking in for one neighbor along with all the other neighbors. He would order things for his business but would only come to collect when he actually needed the item which could be weeks later. He has electric gates so you cannot drop them over. He would put the neighbors address on

Other than that I will take in parcels for my nearby neighbors. However the drivers do tend to just leave the parcel on the doorstep rather than going to the neighbors since COVID

YANBU. Occasionally is fine, not frequently. Note on the door saying 'deliveries for this address only'.

Then don't take it. Quite simple.

I never wait in for a neighbour to collect a parcel. I text then I (we) am home. I am not a 24/7 service.

I have stopped taking parcels in for my neighbours. I have one neighbour who collects parcels at midnight. They never answer the door to me when they are in. Another neighbour will order things and then they will go on holiday for 2 weeks the day after.

I really don't see the problem with taking in parcels for neighbours. Most of our close neighbours go out to work and the delivery drivers all know that we are generally home during the day, as ask us to take them. As others have said, the onus is on the neighbours to come round to collect their parcels and if we're not in, then they have to come back another time. I think it's just basic neighbourliness. Having said that, our neighbours usually collect their packages within a couple of days and there has only ever been one occasion when we've had n enormous box stuck in our porch for a fortnight.

It’s surely up to the person who missed their delivery to go and fetch the parcel? Why would the person who’s kindly taken it in be expected to let them know? They’re not a delivery service.

Open the door, say to the driver "No, I can't take it in today, sorry", close the door.

That is literally all you need to do. The drivers don't care if you say no, it happens all the time.

Not sure if you meant my other neighbour should have gone to collect the parcel from next door? They had no idea that next door had their parcel as we don't always get notes to say where things have been redelivered to so they assumed it had been lost in the mail after 3 weeks.

When we used to take parcels in for next door I'd always message to let them know we had it (to avoid the situation above) and even then they never arranged or offered to come over and get them from our hallway. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Why do you have to stay home? Go out, your neighbour can collect at your convenience.

Someone on our street has us down as delivery option - they are across the road and several houses away but their neighbours are sick of their Amazon habit.

My neighbours take things in for us - we take stuff in for them. Its pretty equal. One neighbour never comes to collect (dont know why) - we have to take it round - it's at my convenience.