to think that changing nappies in public is unacceptable !

[sophiec100]

Yesterday when I took my daughter to her dance class there was another child there who is 3 and still wears nappies and her mum was in the waiting area with the rest of us. Halfway through the session her daughter had soiled her nappy and the staff brought her through to the waiting area and told her mum. rather than go to the toilets to change her she just lay out a changing mat on the sofa and proceeded to change her right where she was. No one said anything not even the staff.

Am I right in saying this is totally unacceptable ? not to mention unfair on the child.

Even if there is SEN at 3 it’s very unlikely to be diagnosed.

A three year old in a pull up does not need changing facilities.

It's nasty af.

Well now the waiting area is horrible, probably stinks and is unhygienic. Why would anyone think that was acceptable 🤯

If a 3 yo still wear nappies then they are still used to it and wouldn't give a crap about being changed in public.

3yo don't fit on a changing table or changing facilities. If there are changing facilities in the first place, which you haven't said there were.

What do you suggest?
Lying them down on the dirty floor or a bathroom in between cubicles? Changing them in the street? Leaving them in their shit so as to not inconvenience you?

Do you normally spread poop everywhere when you change your kid's nappy?

Why are 3 and 4 year old still in nappies? People these days are too busy to toilet train their children!

I was in Starbucks a couple of weeks ago and a group of people were sitting around table chatting over a rolled up dirty nappy 🤢

The only time I changed a nappy in public, was when i went to a seaside town. She had a heavily wet nappy and there were no changing facilities near by. So I tucked myself in a corner, laid her down in her pram, laid the back of the pram down too and changed it quickly. I was discreet.

I potty trained both of my children aged 3. I waited until the summer. Dd was perfectly dry within 3 days. She understood what she was doing and never needed a nappy again after that. She needed a pull up for night time for about a year and then she was fully dry.

we tried the same thing with ds but he didn’t seem to cotton on. He was nearly 4 before he was dry, and then he was around 7 when he stopped needing pull ups at night

Anyone changing a shitty nappy at an indoor venue outside of the toilets/changing facilities is disgusting.

Same for those whipping out a potty in public outside of an actual toilet.

No, 3 year old is school age, not a baby. The poor little girl will be aware that nappies are changed in a private place like a loo. Also child doesn't need to lie down they can stand up in a changing room cubicle and have it changed . She isn't a tiny baby. She deserves some dignity and will have a sense of self at that age.

I've never done it, but if it wasn't somewhere with food like a cafe, and if the changing facilities were gross/involved changing the child on a filthy bathroom floor, then I can sort of see why someone would.

Well it’s been a while since I changed my child’s nappy given that they’re between 20 and 40 but I have changed grandkids more recently and even the most careful attempt carries the risk of accidents and even without an accident, it stinks plus germs spread.

I wouldn’t dream of inflicting any of that on someone else in public and I can’t understand why anyone else would.

Even worse are people who think they can pull out a potty in public.

I do it in the buggy if there's no changing table or if the accessible toilet is locked.

In our local shopping centre the baby change toilet has radar key locks and you have to wait for an attendant to open it. It's not the disabled toilets, these are separate! I have complained but they haven't changed it so far.

You can buy radar keys on eBay. I have one

That is disgusting. If my 3 year old shit herself and there was no changing facilities i would bring her home.

Depends where. Busy cafe or train station etc no, outside green space away from others fine. Sometimes there's limited options.

This. Depends on the environment. If you’re surrounded by other mums and kids in nappies then really not such a big deal.

Also at 3 they’d probably be over the weight limit for a fold down changing table and often there’s no room to change on toilet/bathroom floor.

@HawkinsTigers I mean, you do realise that ridiculous right?

That would mean every person changing a nappy carries germs around and would need to change clothes every time.

The most common place for changing tables in a house is the kid's bedroom. Does that mean they need disinfecting every time you change a nappy in there or the kid has an accident?

Germs are everywhere but there aren't going to jump out of the nappy!

I saw a baby changed on the fold down tray table on a plane once.

I can’t believe so many think this is acceptable! 🤢

Guess these are the ones amongst us that do this kind of thing.

Grim. I recall when my kids were little being horrified by a visiting Mum who changed her child very badly soiled nappy on my kitchen table. She wasn't invited back.

When DS1 was young I tried to fit in with the various other mums and one of the mums was the leader of the pack who liked to parade her perfect parenting and instruct the rest of us how she did things better. Spoiler- she was a first timer like the rest of us and so had no more experience than any of us. i always felt so inadequate next to her.

We were at a brunch one day at our local cafe and she pushed her plate of eggs aside and changed her DS on the fucking table- pooey nappy and all. That's when I realised she was a complete twat and no better than anyone else at parenting and decided I was not going to hang around people who I had nothing in common with except for the fact we all had had sex and had conceived at roughly the same time.

Was quite liberating tbh.

Are you taking the mick?

You genuinely don’t understand that exposing random people in a public place to the sight, smell and germs associated with any nappy change plus the risk of accidental mess is really unpleasant, unhygienic and usually unnecessary.

Why would anyone think this is OK?