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Hunnybunny235 · 15/01/2025 09:14

So my husband and I have 2 kids, youngest being 9 months. From before having my first I always told him my biggest fear was to not be secure as my mom used to always threaten to kick me out. He convinced me, begged me not to work so he could grow his business while I looked after the kids. I couldn’t work, couldn’t see friends and he didn’t think I needed any hobbies. Then 3 months ago he decided he wanted to travel and we would have to give up our tenancy to a place I could afford rent on to travel the world. I was extremely apprehensive about this as I did not want to be out of a place in case things went left but I foolishly listened. Please spare me the I should have known betters. Because I’ve learnt the hard way yes. Anyways, travelling meant we were completely isolated and would have no time for dates or breaks from the kids. Surprise surprise now he wants to suddenly divorce after one argument and leave me completely blindsided. I feel hopeless. Any advice?

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unsync · 15/01/2025 09:40

You need to make your own security now. He has isolated you and his behaviour towards you is abusive. You have no job, no hobbies, no housing, presumably reliant on him for money, and he's likely isolated you from friends and family too. He's got you where he wants you - dependent on him and having to do exactly what he wants or he will leave. Get help from Women's Aid / Refuge to leave and find your secure, new life for you and your children without him.

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