Should I be worried about 3 year old?

[MaMoosie]

My 3 year old son still won’t sleep in his own bed through the night and still won’t entertain the idea of pottt training. He was 3 in October. Developmentally he is great and I don’t have any other concerns about him but the only other experience I have is with my daughter who was sleeping in her own bed and toilet trained by 2. Is this normal? Or should I speaking to a health visitor about this.

Bump

I don't know what you mean by he won't entertain it. With regards to sleeping, he's probably just used to Co sleeping and is attached to you.

What's going on with the potty training? Is he just having accidents? Any success?

He won’t use the potty. I’ve only just managed to get him to wear pull ups instead of nappies but he will not go near the potty or toilet.

I wouldn't worry if it's just those two things...my DS1 potty trained at just over 2, but DS2 took till he was 3.5

Aged 3 both would start off in their own beds (with me lying next to them while they fell asleep), then run into our bed in the middle of the night.

Aged 3 two of my children were coming in to us during the night. I didn't mind , they found it reassuring.
Does he go to nursery? I would have thought that seeing the other DC might give him the idea .personally I wouldn't bother with pull ups , I would stick with a baby's nappy or pants. If you think he has an inkling about needing to go then no nappy and don't confuse things by going back and forth. If after a few days you aren't making g progress revert to nappies. He might prefer a normal loo with a small seat if the potty has become an issue. Lots of three year olds aren't potty trained so a few more months isn't a big deal.

My youngest would not go anywhere near the toilet and I tried absolutely everything, he was so stubborn he just wouldn't entertain it but he was at the stage where every time he did the tiniest wee he wanted changing straight away because he didn't like the feeling of a dirty nappy.
When he turned 3 I just took his nappies away, he cried then once he realised I wasn't backing down he reluctantly let me sit him on the toilet, realised it wasn't as awful as he imagined and was toilet trained within a few days

All three of my children were potty trained at 3-3.5 years. Weren’t ready before and no long lasting issues.

What do you do to encourage them to sleep in their own bed? If you’ve started bad habits, it’s much harder to stop them. You’ll need to be tough (and they won’t remember it when older)

He goes to bed ok. But he wakes up around midnight -1 and will scream for me. If he sleeps in with me he sleeps right through. As I work shifts I’ve just been giving in as I need the sleep but I miss my husband as he sleeps on the sofa most nights!

My now nearly 4 year old would not go near a potty either. Then just over 3.5 years he randomly got off the sofa one evening and took himself to the potty. We had two accidents that was is it. Currently Co-sleeping to otherwise it’s constant nightmares and wake ups. I figure that he will grow out of it like previous phases.
Do what feels right for you.

My wee boy is 4 next month and starts the night in his own bed but always comes through for me between 12 and 3am. Hoping one day he will just stop and enjoying the extra cuddles in the main time.

This sounds exactly like my 3 year old!

We didn't have either of these issues with my eldest so I've no idea how to manage them. I especially wish he'd bloody sleep through the night!

No to be gendered but this is perhaps this is just having a girl first as boys can be very different!

Co sleeping is very normal. Why wouldn't they prefer it? Mine co sleeps and I'm just thankful he sleeps through now! Obviously annoying if your husband is uncomfortable on the sofa.

We've just potty trained at almost three and a half and to be honest I think he'd have happily just stayed in nappies but he's at school in September so we had to crack on! At this age he's fine just going in an adult toilet at least and they can hold it in for longer. I went cold turkey with pants in the end and used bribes!