To love my fuzzy hair?!

[TallisTheTruffle]

I was just reading a thread called 'AIBU to hate curly hair'.....so thought I'd present my own version, which is quite the opposite!

I have very wavy hair, so it doesn't take to a curl or spiral, but it does puff out when brushed dry. After a few hours this poofiness settles into shiny long waves that make my hair look thicker, healthier and quite lovely.
I don't use any special procedures, just wash and go in the standard way (any shampoo and conditioner, then comb it and wait for it to dry).

I used to use a curl cream or serum for frizz but after testings and comparisons discovered that it didn't really do anything - my hair doesn't need 'help'.

I straightened my hair for over 30 years and can't imagine what possessed me, now. It looked split, dry and tired. Straight hair is gorgeous, but it didn't suit me. My revelation came on a month long hiking trip in the North, where the weather had it's way with us all and I saw more and more women and girls with exquisite waves and curls just getting out there and embracing what nature did to it. I saw it in such a different light for the first time - it felt carefree, romantic, and I noticed that it really, really suited my face and look.

It's a few months since I returned and I have never touched it since. The dry fuzz has gone and it is now growing fast. I suppose I am posting this to give another version of wavy/curly hair, since a lot of people are convinced frizz is 'bad', or that it is inevitable without strict techniques and methods.

It's only my own view, but mine did heal and looks very healthy. What I love the most is how easy it is now, without having to worry about products or time. All it takes is the time to dry naturally, or leave in a damp plait overnight.

And sometimes, if I brush it out with a thick comb, it puffs up for a while...and I sort of love it. But this isn't a negative to me, because if I want it to go away I just re-braid it for 30 mins and it's gone.

Just wanted to present a positive view from someone with my hair. I love it to bits now and feel silly to have denied it all these years. People have started to compliment it for the first time since my early teens. It's quite freeing tbh. That you had this lovely thing all along and never knew..

These pics are the exact colour and pattern of my natural hair (the longer one especially), and this is how I now wear it. Unfortunately the models are not me

It's beautiful - I do the same, without the curls/wave.

Big up to the fizz appreciation!

Mine is spiral curly. Put on a ton of product and it looks pretty meh.
Don't put anything on and honestly I am Hagrid.

But a little taming and its gorgeous, soft, shiny, imperfectly perfect curls. I used to be terrified of it and the attention it demands. Now I am content to be a Pre-Raphaelite and proud.

This could be me writing your post - for years I absolutely hated my hair - them when GHD’s came out it was a total game changer. Now I am leaving my hair to dry naturally and am really enjoying the change and feel it actually suits me more. My problem was mum had no idea how to deal with my hair as hers is straight and she used brush it which made it just a frizzy mess which looked awful. The brush is not our friend!!!!! My daughter has similar hair so I feel I am better prepared at skipping this awkward phase and won’t be making the same mistake!

Free the Fuzz! 😄

I really do wish I could love (or even settle for “like”) my frizz but I really hate it.

I love my curls, but hate that when I walk past a boiling kettle they turn into a frightful fuzz.

It’s lovely (and encouraging) to hear you all embracing it. I might keep rereading this thread and see if it helps me view my hair differently. 😊

I have the same hair, I barely do anything with it. If I wear a cashmere hat for half an hour or so, it smooths out 8n to a lovely grey wave

Same here. I have very thick shoulder length hair that I used to style and flatten to within an inch of its life. I have recently discovered that a wash and a good spray of leave in conditioner gives me soft wavy beautiful hair. Wish I had learned this 35 years ago as I would have saved a fortune, but it’s never too late.

I have poker straight hair. It’s so boring. I long for your curls / wave / frizz / body of any kind. Enjoy it op!

Yep, hated mine for years, kept it jaw length and ironed the life out of it, then one day thought fuck it and let it grow wild. And it is wild, butt length fluffy blonde wavey madness, but I love it and wouldn't change it for the world.

The thing is though I am also tired of 'frizz' being pathologised, it is just a natural hair texture that responds to the humidity/environment, but does get more pronounced when stressed (ie, bleach, damage, etc).

The women in my OP photo's have frizz and it is lovely and natural.

I once had my hair highlighted and the type of frizz I had then was much worse, as my hair was processed. Maybe healthy frizz is softer? Mine is something I don't mind at all now, but I do prefer it to swimming in excessive product to force my hair into those odd 'rope' shaped curls.

What a lovely post. I have shoulder length wavy/curly/frizzy hair that I'm only now embracing.
I coloured & straightened it for years so it got really damaged. During Covid my hair started breaking & falling off at the ends so it was uneven. My daughter had to cut it straight across for me.
Now I've let my grey grow out which I love & I leave it curly at least 5 days a week if not all week.
The problem I'm having is finding the right products for my hair. I've tried mousse, gel, oil, creams etc. all are only ok. But maybe that's where I'm going wrong. Maybe I need to just leave it with nothing.

I’ve got thin hair. I hate it. Yes it behaves itself but I’d love long curly/wavy hair. I think it’s great you love your hair, I should learn to love mine as it’s not going to change.

Thanks, we all need some encouragement!

Oddly enough people in my home town (friends and family) haven't said a peep. When I have been out of town or travelling quite a few strangers have complimented me, so no idea what that means!
One friend asked me had I had it curled. When I told her it was this way by nature she advised me to cut it short
It's only just about bra length so I'd like it a few inches longer. It has been so long since I wore it natural that I would love to see it grow more!

@Alsonification I think trends do a number on us, and the sleek trend has been long lived. It's worth remembering how often waves and curls have been admired through history - a lot!
My straightened hair had started to look flat and drab, it actually looked depressed. It's still a bit fluffy like in the photo's above, but much happier now.
It's great to see more men and boys sporting visible curls now too,

I was like you, it took many fits and starts to get here.
I never got on with the curly girl method so was just shampooing & conditioning a few times a week and then leaving a curl cream or serum in. I never use gel or mousse.
It didn't look any different though so I stopped wasting the money.

I know many on MN say they have to use mousse, special towels, pillows, etc, etc, but our hair is all so different. Def worth trying out new things, so test whether it does look ok without product. Mine does, although I occasionally run a bit of kerastase serum through it after it is dry.

I also think life is too short to force ourselves to go natural if we don't like it. Enjoy having it exactly how it makes you happy, whether that's natural, coloured or in a mohican!
Some get a bit righteous about natural hair, but straightening mine did make me happy for several decades.