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Would you take the flat?

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Ally999 · 14/01/2025 04:28

Current situation is that I live with my mum & 4yr old child in a flat that has a lot of disrepair issues (leaks & mould). The flat is on an estate with lots of other flats , and we experience a lot of Asb (people who don’t live here loitering on the stairs smoking / drinking , playing music loudly on their phones, urinating on the communal stairs etc). Often, me and my son have to walk past them to get to our flat which isn’t very nice.

I am on my councils housing register & I bid weekly but I’m virtually of no priority as I’m not homeless or overcrowded. I work but would not be able to afford private rent in my area (2 bed is around £1500 & upwards). As much as I’m grateful for the support my mum provides, I hate living here, and we bump heads a lot.

I have been applying directly for a few housing associations properties, and surprisingly I was shortlisted as number 1 for a 2 bed flat an hour away from where I currently live. I viewed it a few days ago, it needs a lot of work doing and there’s no flooring (which I knew) but it is nice & on a quiet road. The rent is a dream, & The block itself only has 12 flats. I have no issues with the flat itself, and I was essentially told at the viewing that it’s mine if I want it. My main concern is moving just over an hours drive away from my mum & friends who help me with childcare. I’m worried about struggling with work as well.

I would like to know wwyd if you were in my situation? Would you take the flat?
thanks for reading.

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Ally999 · 14/01/2025 11:29

MyProudHare · 14/01/2025 07:50

OP for real, I would love to know which HA this is, as we're having no luck on the waiting list in London. Would you DM me? No pressure if you are uncomfortable of course.

If I were you, I would take the flat. If you turn it down, you might not get an opportunity.

You won't want your son living in a rough estate as he hits his teenage years.

I Have dm’d you

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Ally999 · 14/01/2025 11:35

Thank you everyone for all your replies. They have really helped. I agree that secure & safe housing is most important , and the flat is lovely. There are schools nearby too which is great.

I’ve expressed my interesr. I was told I would be contacted soon to go over paperwork , paying a weeks deposit, signing tenancy etc which is exciting!

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bestcatlife · 14/01/2025 11:57

@Ally999 sorry but would you mind sending me the HA details?

Absolutely take the flat 🙂 well done on getting the offer x

Ally999 · 14/01/2025 16:57

bestcatlife · 14/01/2025 11:57

@Ally999 sorry but would you mind sending me the HA details?

Absolutely take the flat 🙂 well done on getting the offer x

Yes of course x
& thank you!

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