To have newborn, toddler and me in one room?

[Emmie1997]

Long story short my boyfriend broke up with me recently and I’m 7 months pregnant and we have a 3 year old. I’m renting a small one bedroom rented house, we sleep in the bedroom, my toddler sleeps in his toddler bed next to my double bed. There’s not alot of room for toys, just wardrobes and drawers so we have all his toys in the living room. My council are helping me, I’ve been bidding for two bedroom places so I can live somewhere more affordable. I’m slowly getting further up the list. I don’t think I can afford to privately rent somewhere bigger. I just want some advice about how I can do this, I can move toddler bed and make room for a next to me crib for the baby, so we’ll all be in the bedroom, is this do able ? Or do I do something with my living room ?

Can your toddler sleep with you in the double and then that leaves room for the crib

What @Mumof1andacat said.

I think if you can manage it, I would keep everyone sleeping in the one room, although if the new baby frequently wakes the toddler in the night, this could cause you problems. If that happens, then maybe put the crib in the living room, so that you can get up in the night without disturbing the other one too much.

I would get a Moses basket you can rock for the living room as you might need to bring baby in there. Have a set up for you to sleep on sofa when baby is in Moses basket but don't obviously sleep with baby on you when on sofa. Research safe co sleeping as you might do it a lot in the bed.

Ps my boyfriend broke up with me when pregnant too - horrible men xx

If your toddlers a good sleeper and the baby is relatively settled (aka a decent sleeper) I think that would work well. If the toddler will wake every time the baby does (even if you take baby into the kitchen then I don’t think it will work. In that case I’d consider whether you can perhaps make the toddler their own ‘room’ using screens or a kallax in the living room (but making it clear they can climb into the double with you for comfort anytime)

I would be most worried about the baby waking the toddler up.
So sorry you are in this situation OP.

If you all end up sharing and want to minimise noise for your toddler, I would try sleep sounds. My children always listen to rain or ocean sounds to help them sleep. Babies usually respond well to sleep sounds / white noise. It's very calming.

It might not be ideal but it's a temporary solution, your babies will feel safe and secure with you at night. Good luck OP.

I would be tempted to camp out in the living room while you're getting baby into a routine. If toddler is a good sleeper you probably don't want to be disturbing them and have 2 kids needing your attention in the middle of the night.

Do you have a single or double bed? What about a one where there is a hiddne mattress that pulls out, for the toddler. That way, you have more room for getting dressed and stuff once you put it away.
I couldn't share a bed often with my 3yo - she's really wriggly, so I'd be more sleep deprived than from the baby! Nice for a treat but mightn't be a regular thing.

Who is watching your LO while you're in hospital, out of interest?

You are better off without that idiot. He may come crawling back one day, but he's shown you his true colours

Are you based in London OP?

I think the key will be flexibility.

make sure your sofa is comfortable enough to sleep on. Consider a futon or sleeper sofa.

definitely make sure you have someplace portable for the baby to sleep.

that way if baby is restless one night, you can leave toddler in bedroom and move to living area with the baby. If toddler is the one staying up, same thing, though a toddler is unlikely to mind “camping” if you need to set up a portable bed that way.

Absolutely doable and may help three year old to learn to sleep deeper. Similar to @lavendarwillow 's suggestion, but white/pink/brown noise (brown is my preference) is really useful for minimising noise disturbance and helping everyone to sleep longer. You can just search ilcor free videos on YouTube.

Sorry you've been put in this situation by your ex but good riddance to bad news.

If you have the money and space, I would perhaps buy a daybed for the living room so you have options. Then put a mattress protector, jersey sheet (from Amazon or ikea and use this as a sofa / extra bed when needed. You can get them second hand if you can transport and get it up to your flat easily enough. We used to have the hemnes. It is adjustable so you could for example find a mattress, which is 140 x 200 (double bed size but a bit longer), a few big cushions and have that as a sofa. If too large, you can have it smaller. Eg A small double 120 x 200 or a single 90 x 200. These are European sizes btw as they’re extra long. www.ikea.com/gb/en/search/?q=Day%20bed

Thankyou for all these suggestions! I’m going to go through them all throughly when toddler is asleep. I like the idea of a daybed downstairs, I’m thinking if baby is up all hours of the night my toddler won’t be as disturbed if we’re downstairs. Luckily toddler is a deep sleeper. I’m not in London, just outside. The plan is my ex will look after toddler while I give birth but if anything changes, my mum will take toddler. It’s a horrible situation to be in right now but as long as we have somewhere safe and warm to sleep I’m happy. Thankyou for the all encouraging comments, I really appreciate it.