AIBU for saying I can’t let my sister and her friend stay at my house?

[Chichi444]

So I have siblings that live abroad and whenever they come to my city they always ask if they can stay at mine and its usually for anything between 4 days to a week the thing is they are young so they usually just use my house as an hotel they go out partying come back late and just sleep in one of the children’s room which now as they get older are complaining about, or just take over the whole living room so in the evenings I have nowhere to unwind after a long day with the kids I have four children, and we’ve reached this point now where my kids don’t want to share their room with their aunties friend which they don’t know and really they aren’t great company as when they do spend some time at home with us when they are obviously not too busy they are just staring their phones….

my sisters can come and stay with me whenever they want is just the fact they always want to bring a friend I don’t know and that really bothers me and also my apartment ain’t that big so it’s about space also.

so do you think I’m being an horrible sister if I was to suggest to get an Airbnb instead?

YANBU. Tell them that now the kids are older, they need more space so whilst you’d love to see them, they need to stay in a hotel.

Do you ever visit them? Do you stay in a hotel? If yes, there should be no guilt in saying no to them staying with you.

And yes, they definitely should NOT be bringing their friends, that so cheeky and rude.

thanks @Choccyscofffy that’s what I’m thinking to say and no I never stay at their place when I visit because I know it would be too much with four kids so I usually don’t even ask and just get an Airbnb.

No YABU and they are using you

Id say no

If sisters were coming to visit ok but they're using as free accommodation for their friends. They don't take priority over your kids.

Thanks @Eldermillenialyogi yes definitely feels like that!

It’s your house and you’re free to determine your own boundaries. Even if they were impeccably behaved but you just wanted your home to yourself.

Thanks @LocationChange you are right I should!

I would definitely say no. I'd be honest and say it's too much for you.

I'd just say your house isn't big enough anymore now the kids are getting older and give them the details of some air b and bs or hotels nearby and say you can't wait to see them.

Appreciate your input @Youtookmyhandle

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No, the children are too big now to have to cram in with strange adults. Just tell your sister that. It probably hasn't even occurred to her that she is putting you out.

"they usually just use my house as an hotel"

So they disrespect your home as well as impose on your children and disrupt their home environment?

I would be telling them to fuck right off before suggesting they get a hotel or whatever. Not your problem. Your sister and her friends sound like freeloading twats.

Hi Op, late reply here.
How did you manage with your DS & friend? Hope all worked out with minimum of fuss. 👋

thanks @HelplessSoul

Hi @tara130 So I ended up texting my sister and letting her know that I just wasn’t comfortable with having someone that I didn’t know in my house and basically just took a bit of everyone’s advice on here and put it in a text.

thank you for asking @tara130

@SoNiceToComeHomeTo thanks 💖

Good on ya 😁 Thanks for replying @Chichi444

Great! Let us know what she says! Hopefully she understands.

Hello everyone thanks for your replies so helpful made me feel much better!

She took it really well actually she said she totally understood and that she would still come but without her friend 😁

xx