Cold and heating

[Wouldbemagiciansgirl]

Does anyone know the solution to one person ( my husband) not really needing heat in the house and another ( myself) at least needing moderate heat? It's an age old question I know.We are both retired so even though I go out for at least a short time every day I'm fast becoming ratty! We never argue over money, but suddenly the gas and electric bill seems to have become all mine too ! ☺️

If you can (both) afford it without sacrificing eating or the like, I think he's being unreasonable.
In order to save on the bills, you could buy a heated blanket, or hot water bottle to keep warm and save on gas.

Can you heat zone your house so that you both get what you need?

Heat the person not the room. So heated body warmer, electric blankets, hot water bottles.

Point out that house repair on an unheated house can be higher than a comfortable temperature

Can you afford the heating or is your husband worrying about cosy which is motivating his reasoning for wanting it off?

I would say the solution when someone doesn’t need it and someone does is to take the weather into consideration, for example if the outside weather drops below a certain temp then you need the heating on if the cold person is cold.

Also the person needing the heating on should also be adequately dressed, my husband says it’s cold but doesn’t wear slippers and wears a t-shirt. I have a thick dressing gown and fully slippers.

I think you just need to compromise on a middle ground, and then he can wear a t-shirt and you can add layers.

Do you have a decent heating system with zones, timers, thermostats etc?

Men do generally run warmer than women, who need houses and offices to be at a higher temp to feel comfortable, so neither of you is BU.

Personally I vote keep the house warmer but that's probably not a fair solution. I do think that it's crazy to be cold in a house if you can afford to heat it (and horrific that in a wealthy country so many can't afford it).

You have to agree a temperature - 18 or 19 would be a normal ballpark - and if he find it too much he just wears less and you wear as much as possible

We have the heating at 19,and I have my blanket on full wack, we both get what we want

Heat the person not the room

"Heat the person not the room
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So sick of hearing this
It's dangerous to live in a frozen house -can exacerbate many health conditions and cause MI and strokes due to sticky blood
Also your house gets mouldy and damp
Thank god my DH is not such a twat

In our house dh is always cold whereas I am usually warm. We have the heating on about 19.
Today I am wearing a sundress and short cardigan, he thinks I'm deranged but we are both comfortable.

I agree with the pp who said you need the heating on to combat mould.

What temp is he comfortable with and what temp are you comfortable with

Thank you,I agree. We can afford it , he just doesn't seem to need heat, I do, and yes it's terrible that people are freezing in there own homes. x

There’s a minimum you need the house to be heated to as part of basic maintenance. Any less than 18/19 during the day and you’re at significant risk of damp, mould and expensive repair bills. So I’d say that’s your compromise baseline temperature. If you’re still cold with it at that temp then at that point you heat yourself rather than the room- hot water bottle, electric blanket etc.

What was meant was, put the heating on to an acceptable level, around 17-18, whatever the person who doesn't like heat is comfortable with, then if someone wants it warmer they stick a jumper on, or use a heated blanket.

As a peri menopause woman, I can't take my skin off, but if the husband wants it warmer, he can wear a jacket.

I wasn't insinuating a "frozen" house, my house isnt mouldy and damp and i'm not a twat, though you look to be.

I'm not bothered about the heating, unless im having a shower, like a warm bathroom. My DW is,always cold, we just playing thermostat wars now, she puts it on 25, l turn it down to 16, she notices and then turns it up. We both off work for 2 weeks, l dread to think what the bill will be, but luckily we can afford it.

That's fine for the young and fit. Older people or those with breathing/chest problems need warmer air.

I feel colder today now the temperature's higher than yesterday at -3c.
When it's very cold, the air feels drier, today we're back to damp.

As it's the damp I hate, I'm thinking about getting a de-humidifier and lowering the heating temperature.

If you can afford the bill. why would you be dreading it? Makes no sense.
Nor does either 16 or 25 degrees. Try 18 or 19.

But doesn't a house need heating sometimes to avoid damp and mould?

We have different heating needs. Currently the heating is on at 18 degrees. I am wearing wool socks, jeans, a vest, a long sleeved heat tech top and a lambs wool jumper.

Mr Monkey is wearing jeans and a t shirt. No socks.

We are both comfortable.

I am happy to wear a few more clothes than him, but would not be happy with no heating.