Anxiety causing DP to want to quit job

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Hi All,

My DP has recently started a new job (been there almost 2 months), and he isn't liking it at all.

He was previously on medication for anxiety, but hasn't had to take it in a long time. Although it seems like he will again.

He doesn't like that there is a lot of people at this new job, really doesn't like crowds, there's no direction from bosses, the people training have accents that make it difficult to understand what they are saying.

His anxiety has been set off big time, in a bad mood, and doesn't want to be there. He's been applying for anything else he can see, but no joy yet.

He clearly wants to leave but we have children and bills and I can't just say quit and look for something after.

Am I being harsh here? I don't think I am, we need money! But I've never suffered with anxiety, and I can see it is having a really negative affect on him.

Any advice please?

I've suffered anxiety my whole life as I have complex PTSD.
Ive worked in a very stressful job in the NHS my whole career and was a single parent with a mortgage. There was no way I could just leave my job. Everyone relied on me the bills and mortgage were solely my responsibility.
I had to find other ways of dealing with it because curling up in bed wasn't an option.
I got referred ia NHS to psychiatry for counselling and medication which worked.
Conquering anxiety is far better than giving up.

I understand what your partner is going through as I was in same position last year and am now unable to work at all. I agree however he should speak to gp first and not rush to leave. He might recover enough with some time off although he is very new at his role so depends on their sick policy.
Some of the comments on here have made me shudder. Having a mental health problem can be debilitating and sucking it up and getting on with is usually not an option. I think he needs thinking time and perhaps a chance to seek a new role or company. If he find the right fit it could be the best for him. Good luck and look after each other x

Sorry to hear you had a long struggle. I hope the world is kinder to you and you get some well earned time for yourself too x

Not sure if this was mentioned previously but could he ask for written material/ instructions instead as I have ADHD and find verbal instructions difficult and with strong accents on top I would find impossible. I don’t think it would be unreasonable to request this if he could build his confidence to ask.