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Original poster

to be allowed in a tea room with an 8 month old baby?

39 replies

moogbean · 04/05/2008 20:17

I went out today with dh & dd (8mths), beautiful weather, and wanted to stop and try out a tea room we had seen at battlers green farm. However the manager barred us entry inside or outside with a child under 8! Is this normal? Are they alloed to do this with age descrimination as it is? He said "he wasn't licensed..."

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Twiglett · 04/05/2008 20:20

yes they're allowed to if they want to

I was kicked out of All Bar One 7 years ago when ds was 3 months old and asleep in a sling under same pretence

so me and my 25 old work colleagues went down the road

LynetteScavo · 04/05/2008 20:22

But All Bar One is a bar.....not a tea room

Well, if he doesn't want your buisness....bet it'' rubbish in there any way!

PeaGreene · 04/05/2008 20:22

Sounds like a bloody poncey type of tea rooms if they don't let in children.

Original poster
moogbean · 04/05/2008 20:24

Thats the thing, it was a bloody tea room. NOT a bar! I can't believe parents are treated like this! (Sorry, new to the game...)

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missdashwood · 04/05/2008 20:31

I had a similar experience in Nantwich, Cheshire a few weeks back, most baby unfriendly place! A friend and I tried to get into a couple of cafes that we had specifically chosen because they plenty of room and were turned down at the door on both occasions on health and safety grounds! We even offered to park the buggies in the HUGE foyer of one and we were still refused.

KelaH · 04/05/2008 20:40

Oh that's so freaky, I was going to go to battlers green farm with my 3 month old on Sat but saw that rule on the website so didn't bother!!

littleboo · 04/05/2008 20:47

I think thats horrendous, i'm not surprised they are allowed , but its so unfair!!What did he think a baby would do....... or did he think it might put off his "chosen Clientelle", better off somewhere else.

yurt1 · 04/05/2008 20:49

Came across one in Norfolk like this when ds1 was 17 months old

irony is he's now 'old' enough to attend and would cause a lot more disruption (he's severely autistic) than he would have aged 17 months. Perhaps they ban disabled people too

dutchmam · 04/05/2008 21:10

YANBU to expect to take kids into a tearoom! I suppose they can stop them but luckily DS and I (tea shop veterans) have never come across any that did that.

alibubbles · 05/05/2008 12:37

The Bullpen ( Battlers Green Farm Tea shop) has banned under 8's for years, at least as far as I can remember and my DC's are 21 and 22 now and won't go in there on principle now!

cupsoftea · 05/05/2008 14:21

crazy place what a stupid rule - omg just say if someone bf there!!

nailpolish · 05/05/2008 14:25

i dont understand - how can a teashop ban children?

Sidge · 05/05/2008 14:25

How bizarre.

I have 3 children, the eldest is 9. So I could take her in for a cup of tea but would have to leave the other two outside

stripeymama · 05/05/2008 14:29

Bunch of knobs.

wheresthehamster · 05/05/2008 14:29

It had to come. After 'adults only' campsites it was only a matter of time before the child-haters infiltrated cafes.

It will be boutiques and chemists next. Anywhere where people can't enjoy themselves unless it is deathly silent.

stripeymama · 05/05/2008 14:32

Its a bloody farm shop, albeit glorified and a bit up its own arse.

Its not like its a bar or a posh restaurant.

nailpolish · 05/05/2008 14:32

if i had a tearoom id ban old codgers

glitterball · 05/05/2008 18:41

how bizarre - i'd much rather put up with a few babies than loads of grumbling 8+ year olds ( i have one at home who is bad enough!)

nametaken · 05/05/2008 18:45

wheresthehamster your post made me laugh. It's the sort of thing I would have said if I had seen this thread before you

Does anyone think that a lot of this anti-children being seen in pub/restaurant/coffee shop/whatever stems from the fact that because the older generation couldn't afford to take their kids out, they don't want us to be able to either? And they don't like us having something they didn't have? Coz I think that's half the problem. Resentment.

misdee · 05/05/2008 18:51

this has been on before. i am heading there when dd3 is in nursery and before dc#4 arrives.

i love child free places.

RustyBear · 05/05/2008 18:53

nametaken - I really hope you were joking there, because if not that's one of the most ridiculous generalisations I've ever heard.

hatrick · 05/05/2008 18:59

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stitch · 05/05/2008 19:10

hmmm, if theire is place for pushchairs, then they should be allowed.
but now my kids are older, i can see the other side of the coin. i dont particularly want to be bothered by othe r peoples kids having tantrums.especially when i dont have mine with me.
but babies are lovely.

nametaken · 05/05/2008 19:26

I was only pondering whether this could be the reason - it just seems to me that people are less tolerant now than they used to be.

I know my MIL can't bear the fact that I've got

disposible nappies
parent and toddler parking
family tax credit
maternity leave

because she didn't have them - so yeh, ignore me probably am generalising a bit

AttilaTheMeerkat · 05/05/2008 19:30

Have seen this website - the restaurant to my eyes looks like a ponced up Harvester. Have not seen this rule anywhere else and I know of similar farm shop type places like this in my area.

If I was local to this place I'd have a word with someone like the council's restaurant licencing dept because surely such a rule is not legally enforceable?.