To not want to go out when I have work the next day

[Sundaycoffee]

Anyone else just can't be arsed to go out after work on a week night?
I'm child free and (relatively) young but the last thing I feel like doing after work (especially in the colder months) is going out and socialising when I've spent a day at work.
I have a friend who just got a bit frustrated with me trying to arrange a meet up as I told her I would only meet Friday evening- Sunday day time, this obviously makes it harder to find a time we are both busy but I just KNOW if I planned to meet in the evening after work (or Sunday evening) I wouldn't be feeling it, but feel like maybe I'm being unreasonable with this and should force myself to be a bit more sociable.
She asked me if I was free in the week and I just declined and told her that
as soon as I finish work I'm shattered and just want to stay inside in the warm and not have to talk to anybody 😂

I'm young and child-free and have not left the house after work recently. When the weather is so cold and it's pitch black after work I don't have any will to go anywhere.

I actually found it easier to go out straight from work. For me it's harder to go out from my nice cosy home than to go to a pub or whatever when I'm already out of the house

Monday - Thursday evenings you’ll find me and my cat under a blanket on the sofa. I’ll start playing tennis a couple of nights a week when it gets a bit warmer and lighter, but for now I’m happy hibernating.

It depends on the type of 'going out' for me.

A night drinking where I might be out late? No, not midweek.

A meal or cinema when I'm more likely to get home earlier? Yes.

I think my midweek criteria for going out is no alcohol (maybe a glass of wine with a meal but..) and back home around 9pm.

YANBU

Its each to their own. I go out after work a lot on weekdays because my son is with his dad Monday-Wednesday so its usually my only option to socialise unless its his dads monthly weekend. We had a ‘monday gang’ from going out every monday and everyone just wouldnt book early meetings😅. My best work friend (childless) does not go out during the week for similar reasons to yours and everyone respects that because someones boundaries and wants should be respected. I think them getting frustrated at you is unfair on you. If you feel like you ‘should’ be more social after work hours you can do what a lot of people do and say “yeah okay ill come but i can only stay till 7” or whatever time suits and works for you but you shouldn’t feel pressured to.

Even when I have a child and husband free night, I prefer my own company indoors. I get a takeaway, binge watch a series and sleep! YANBU