Blended families

[Mum2023]

Question for you lovely mums,

my children’s are forced to stay with ex 50% week on week off court forced, kids are 10/12 ex now has a 21 month child and is having another, reality hasn’t hit my children of what life ill be like once baby is born both
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ne under age 3, they found it difficult with the first one due to big age gap and his gf wasn’t treating them nicely it was only for show while we had a court hearing then back to normal.

will things get better for them once she has another one of her own with first ones she kept telling my children to go away it’s my child etc my children to go and stay in there room mostly whilst there I’m worried it will get worst for them again and I can’t stop it.

Do you think this wil work or will they come back to me wanting to live with me ?

ex is controlling and won’t allow them to come home to there mum

I can't see why the situation would improve with a new baby?

How are they forced? I appreciate there is a court agreement but 10 and 12 are old enough to say if they want to go to their dad’s or not. Have they said they don’t want to go? Or do you think they don’t want to go?

Nobody can know how another baby will affect things, but at their ages I’d have thought their voices would carry some weight if they don’t want to go.

I presume ex only has 50/50 to avoid paying maintenance if he’s letting his GF send them to their rooms and not wanting them to interact with their half-sibling?

There was dv involved and Cafcass forced 50/50 I went back to court where ex is alienating children manipulating them doesn’t allow me any contact for 7days he lied again court telling them what a horrible mother I was how is ex is a good mu to my children treats them like her own and cry’s when they have to come home which isn’t true she doesn’t bother with my children at all etc it he has been arrested for stalking etc his gf doesn’t want the children there all the time and they have to sit in there rooms most of the time they only are too scared to tell him the truth his controlling behaviour will is getting f worst. Family court have ignored his behaviour and now using parent acrimony instead of PA. I don’t want no what’s going to happen once number 2 is here with my children I can’t go back to court I’ll have to watch my children suffer. I asked for school
to support me they ruined my life backing ex up and invited him to meetings etc so he had time to coach children when children were in his care.