dds nursery seems to be teaching her to be scared of bugs and i don't like it

[mud]

she is nearly 4. has always loved bugs and snails and worms liek the other 2 have. about 2 months ago i wathced her pre-school teacher freak out about a bee and kill it. dd has started being upset at flies, bees and spiders and it annoys me a lot.

i believe that school is responsible for this change in her attitude aibu? i apreciate thers nothign i can do about it now apart form tell her that spiders are lovely

I would be deeply fucked off if a teacher killed anything in front of my dc, barring of course a wasp or something that was actively frightening and threatening the children. We always try quite hard always to shoo things outside where possible rather than kill them, even wasps and bluebottles etc. I'm not big on bugs but I find my children's natural wonder at them very charming and have made an effort not to be wussy about worms etc for their benefit. I would expect an early years practitioner to do the same.

my feeligns exactly and i said to her 'oh don't do that, poor thing' and she launched into his tlak about how it had been inside scaring the childrn - it was a hover fly not even a bee

i just looked at her and kind of smiled in a grimace

can you actively counter it in some way? Maybe buy dd a bug watcher pot with a magnifying lid and catch some ants or ladybirds and watch them for a bit or something? Go looking for spider webs when it¡s still damp in the morning so that they are all dewy so that you can see the spiders and explain about them? I think I'd be a bit miffed as well.

YANBU. Am not keen on all bugs (but fine with spiders) but would not show this in front of the DCs.

I agree with you mud and I would be annoyed
the only thing I can say is that it is extremely common to see people freaking out about insects and if it hadn't happened at nursery, then it probably would have happened somewhere else - I know a nursery teacher is more influential in a child's life but IME it only takes one incident of a child seeing an adult scared about bugs, to make them nervous also

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It would annoy me too.

YANBU.

Exactly, they just need to see it once. I am terrified of cockroaches (bigguns here) and have had to put on my best "ooh look isn't that interesting" act on if we see them as I don't want to pass it on to ds. Nearly kills me every time!

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Oh definitely YANBU

The nursery DD goes to has a big display up at the moment called AAARRGGGHH SPIDERS, I don't really like it, but am too much a wuss to say anything about it...