Separate rooms drama

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After years of broken sleep due to DH snoring I decided to move into my eldest DS room now he has left home. I decorated it myself and it’s lovely. I am well rested, happier and enjoy not been woken constantly with the noise. I’ve tried everything. Earplugs for me, snoring aids, sleep apnoea clinic (he doesn’t have it).
anyway DH is kicking up a fuss and sulking big time. We are still intimate and at thr weekends I go to bed with him and when the snoring is too bad I move but during the week most nights I just go to my own room. I still work 12 hour shifts and get tired but he wants me in his bed every night “to cuddle” before I go off to my own bed. I do sometimes but AIBU to want to some nights go to bed early with my book and just chill? You would have thought this was the worst thing I could do. Any other separate roomers on here with some words of wisdom and experience? I think he’s being selfish and he thinks I am.

I've been with my partner 8 years and we do separate beds mostly. We both disturb each other to be honest, he is a heavy snorer and I am a light anxious sleeper so wriggle around and wake up a lot. I work long 12 hour shifts like you, its healthcare, its stressful, I need some solo wind down time after. Initially he kicked up a fuss about it but we've done it for years and now he sees how much better rested we both are and we are nicer to each other because there isn't background sleep deprivation and resentment about who has kept who awake. We also do the weekend bed sharing / more effort to have cuddle time thing that you do and it works well.

My parents have had separate beds for years due to snoring and it actually saved their marriage.
I also have friends who sleep separately most nights because of snoring and different routines but they have a great sex life and happy marriage so it can definitely work.

You can't survive or rubbish sleep, your DH is being selfish prioritising his needs over yours.

Has he looked into having an operation to stop the snoring? A friend of mine did and said it was the best thing he's ever done.

We have a lovely marriage. Neither of us is perfect but we usually sort our issues out. He is much more tactile then I am but I make a real effort to make sure he feels loved and secure. I’m an introvert so my own space is important to me. He can be selfish but this is killing me not sleeping.
If he came to me for a cuddle he wouldn’t leave which is the issue with that