Am I wasting my time with this friend?

[OneBrightAzureBiscuit]

hi- so just looking for some advice really
ive been in contact with this other woman called Lisa for couple of years now maybe 2? We spoke on surface levels but haven’t been face to face since secondary school. She always struck me as a really nice girl BUT a little bit bizarre.
for instance, she began telling me stuff that seemed a bit far fetched like I would ask her what her plans were for the next day and she would say she was currently stuck in hospital with a famous radio presenter as they are a family friend, another example was that she got invited to the theatre with a close friend: with a famous actor who was on BGT. She also told me stuff that I’m not sure whether to believe like crazy outings. Also, she made a point to tell me non directly that she prefers her main friend over me and she plastered them both and the caption “besties” all over social media, it seemed a bit childish to me. I really felt crap and second best over that, then she started reading my messages and ignoring me so in a rage I unfriended her silently. Days passed so I gave in and added her back- she had sent one message and made no more effort to get back in touch. Since then, it’s been a few days and she said she was real busy but missed me a lot. I’ve asked to meet up twice and she’s said yes but there’s always a condition like first she said she couldn’t meet til February now she’s saying when the snow risk ends.
sounds stupid but I really do value friends in life & I want to be friends with her but I’m not sure whether to invest in this point in case she wastes my time and doesn’t meet up etc
she seems a bit bizarre though or maybe I’m reading it wrong
what does everyone else think? X

Sounds like too much hard work. I would let this one go OP.

You haven't seen each other face to face in years, so it makes sense that other people in her life that see her more often would be closer.
I am sure she wasn't meaning anything by it

I don’t think her having best friends who aren’t you is particularly unreasonable of her, given what you’ve said about how well you know her. And while I’m not the sort of person to post photos with “besties” on social media, I know it’s something my 20-something nieces and nephews do. Do you think of her as your best friend? Did she perhaps tell you in a round about way about her “Bestie’s” because you’ve been expecting a bit too much from her and she was trying to dampen your expectations?

But in any case, it doesn’t sound like a relationship you’re getting much out of. It’s hard work and you feel disrespected by her. Drop her and free up your time to be friends with people you get on better with.

Sorry OP, but you sound way too intense. Have I read it right that you haven't seen her in person since secondary school? How long ago was that?

You seem to have taken it very personally that she has other friends that she is closer to than you? Why? Surely it is natural that she has another "bestie"? Why do you think that her Facebook posts were aimed at you?

When you say that she started reading your messages and then ignoring them, how many did you send? It sounds like she has a full and busy life, so perhaps she couldn't keep up with the level of messaging you were expecting from her?

Whatever, if she's making you rage then it sounds like this isn't the friendship for you.

Just concentrate on your other friends and enjoy spending time with them

People can have famous friends. It's not nearly as bizarre as you think. My good friend used to be a messenger boy in Vivien Westwood atelier in the 90s and then progressed his career and has pictures of the likes of Daniel Craig and Cillian Murphy practically dressed in trackies chilling in his living room. My ex's cousin is an actor and used to date an A-list celebrity so my in-laws would casually have them for lunch. So it is not at all outside the realm of possibility that your friend found herself in a company of someone famous.
As to the other stuff, I am not sure unfriending her in rage shows you up as a particularly stable person or friend. So maybe it is a youissue

To be honest you both sound a bit odd.

Why would she think you were her best friend or prioritise you if you haven't met since school?

Are you saying you think she's lying about the people she knows?

In short i would ditch or at least stop contacting and concentrate on meeting people who want to see me in person but I think you've been acting a bit oddly here in focussing on her so much when you're not really friends in person these days.