Aibu to have a bit of a career break

[Girlmummyx]

I've recently decided I want a bit of a break from working so I can spend time with the kids I have 3 DC my youngest is 1 and doesn't sleep I've tried everything to help this the bath bed routine nothing works I feel so fun down mentally I decided I need a break I've been working long hours all through pregnancy I went back to work. Early I feel as though I don't see the DC I finish work go pick the kids up take them to the clubs and by the time I have. Got home with them given them tea it's time for bed but I have been struggling after only getting a few hours sleep I also have A 9 year old who doesn't sleep she's possible ADHD and other sensory issues behaviour issues we are in the middle of appointments with that ATM I feel. Guilty I have taken a break my employer has said if you want to come back just email me my relationship with. DH is not great ATM either it's added to the stress if I am honest by he doesn't help me with anything and complains if the house is slightly untidy and calls me lazy and says he is leaving but never dose I feel like I am drowning. At the moment. With all the stress and I can't seem to shake the feeling I lost my dad 2 years ago to the day unexpectedly from cancer he didn't know he had it and passed quickly I feel I have. Just bottle all of that up aswell and not had time to grieve properly. Aibu to take a bit of me time

With a “D”H like that I would stay in work get your ducks together and kick the lazy useless bastard out… you and the kids will feel better in the long run

That's what I was trying to do I had loads of house viewings for me and the children they seemed to go ok but the estate agents want a home owner guarantor that's the bit I am struggling with and for this reason I haven't been getting anywhere it's just getting me down ATM

I don't think it's unreasonable to want a bit of a break, you sound like you have a lot on your plate! But if the relationship with your husband is rocky and he's treating you badly, I wouldn't want to make myself financially dependent on him. Can you go part time for a bit?

Gosh this sounds a lot. Your DH sounds awful, I’m sorry.
in terms of financial how would you cope without any pay? I guess you could claim UC, and maybe DLA for your adhd child?
Sorry I don’t have more advice, but it sounds like you 100% need a break.

If your marriage is on the rocks, now is not the time to make yourself financially dependent/vulnerable.

A suggestion on another thread a while ago I saw advised the poster to book some parental leave (you are entitled to request 18 weeks per child up until they turn 18). Could you book some time off (3-6 weeks or something?) to recharge (secret time that doesn't instantly get filled with chores and drudgery)?

I have been applying for part time work also as I definitely don't want to depend on DH for anything I've always worked and liked to put my own money away I do have some money aside l will have a look into parental leave also

DH is not great ATM either it's added to the stress if I am honest by he doesn't help me with anything and complains if the house is slightly untidy and calls me lazy and says he is leaving but never dose I feel like I am drowning.

this sound more like a D-H problem than a work problem. Don’t put yourself in a position of being reliant on him. When you realise you need to get away from him, you will need a job to support yourself and your kids.

I think taking a career break in these circumstances was not wise. You are now in a position where you can't rent anything for you and the children and your marriage sounds like it is falling apart. The priority should be to have a solid financial base. Can you contact your former employer as they suggested and go back, at least part time?