Thank you texts or a card?

[Inmydreams88]

First Christmas with my baby, I want to send thank you cards to people who got him gifts but husband says a text good enough. I’ve never personally received a thank you card from anyone I’ve ever given a gift, only texts but growing up I always wrote them to other people if I was given a gift.

I sent thank you cards and still do, my son is 23, and they were very well received. There's something lovely about a card or letter in the post. Your h is probably saying a text is enough as he doesn't want to write the cards.

I would much prefer to receive a note than a text - but I can't remember the last time I actually sent one 😱

Always a card, takes a minute to write and is the right thing after someone has gone to the effort of giving a gift, imo.

If I were going to text I would have done it by now - probably on the day. There's more a grace time for written thank yous, so I think this year I'd write them. A text is enough though. I wrote thank you cards as a child, but now as an adult I text people immediately on opening. I think the increasing cost of stamps and unreliability of the post service probably has helped the decline of thank you cards.

Thank in person would be my favoured approach, so a call or facetime. A card is expensive with stamps as well. Failing that a text or FB message

Did you not text or call 2 weeks ago when it was actually Christmas?
I'd either either send an actual card, or try phoning them now.
Edited, as another option would be a photo of the baby with said gift on say whatsapp- but again, I would have done this weeks ago!

I'd be happy with a text. I think cards are a bit of a waste of both money and paper, and they'd probably end up in the recycling. If it was a wedding or christening thank you card with a picture from the day, then I'd keep it as a keepsake. If it was a thank you card for a bog standard Christmas present, in the bin it'd go.

A card is nicer, so if you want to do cards, then great.... but a text is adequate, so if you choose to go the extra mile and do cards, that's up to you (i.e. you can't expect him to write half of the pile of them, and neither should you feel annoyed that you have to spend an evening doing them while he's sitting watching the telly)

Of course we thanked people for their gifts when they physically gave them to us. There’s only one person who I haven’t physically seen who gave a gift to my dad to give to us, but I did message her on Facebook on Christmas Day. I always sent thank you cards as a child though so I wanted to also send a thank you card on top of saying thank you after they handed the gift to me.

When said thank you when the gifts were handed over, were the gifts opened then? Because if the gifts were opening in front of the giver and thanked in person then there's no need for a follow up thank you because they were thanked for their gift in person. If the gift was handed over wrapped and opened later then I'd have thanked them either by text on the day or by card in the post.

You never said that the gifts were opened in front of the gift giver OP!!! That changes things completely!!! I thought you meant they were gifts posted to you from friends/relatives.

No need to follow up with a card etc if the gift giver was there. Maybe send a whatsapp photo with the baby playing with/wearing the gift as an extra- 'Baby Inmydreams88 likes their new XYZ, thank you again'.
For the person not there in person, do the same or a thank you card if you like. If you thanked in person though, that would normally be enough.