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Cleaner has cost me £1600

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Bootsybugs22 · 08/01/2025 19:47

I was out of the country for two days and my regular ckeaner (for 5 months) went in to clean whilst I was away. She letnherself in via a back door key left in a safe place. Our decking is really slippy so I said if she needed to go in and out she coulds use the front door once she was in. I text her to say the front door keys were square yale , labelled and in a key pot in the hall.

We have a front modern door to the porch and an older wooden self locking door from porch to house.

She called me whilst away to say she was locked in the porch because the keys i left didn't fit the door. She had picked up some other keys out the fruit bowl in the kitchen.

I called a locksmith. In the meantime she called back and said that stressful situations increase her risk of a seizure (she's epileptic) and I needed to get her out now. So I called my neighbour and asked them to force the rear back paito door. This is because the cleaner had passed the keys she had through the letterbox and one of them was for the rear patio door but not the main opener. So the neighbour tried to force the secondary door open as it could be unlocked. Anyway door got broken in the process.

Locksmith arrived. Drilled the lock, got her out, fitted a new lock. But before he'd arrived the door had been damaged by the neighbour (I gave them permission to force the door)

Today I paid the locksmith £85. Had a man round to quote on repair of the door (£1500 for new set of doors.... not repairable).

I messaged the cleaner and asked if she had insurance. She's now blocked me on WhatsApp but messaged me separately on normal text messaging to say she cancelled her insurance last year when she got her epilepsy diagnosis (why?!).

I'm at a total loss. AIBU that I want SOME recompense even if uts £85?

OP posts:
Amy3500 · 13/01/2025 17:39

swordpen · 13/01/2025 16:51

It's snowflake behaviour. Everyone experiences stress. This is so stupid you can't just bend everyone to your will because if they don't obey it will 'cause you stress' that's not how being an adult in the world works.

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It’s snowflake behaviour to have a condition that has triggers? Aren’t you considerate and nice, do hope you’re not an employer too. As someone with a child with epilepsy and friends with epilepsy, believe me some people have triggers. Maybe head to one of the epilepsy charity and have a read!!

MartinCrieffsLemon · 13/01/2025 17:41

swordpen · 13/01/2025 16:51

It's snowflake behaviour. Everyone experiences stress. This is so stupid you can't just bend everyone to your will because if they don't obey it will 'cause you stress' that's not how being an adult in the world works.

Edited

Having epilepsy and stress being literally a trigger isn't Snowflake behaviour omg

swordpen · 13/01/2025 17:44

MartinCrieffsLemon · 13/01/2025 17:41

Having epilepsy and stress being literally a trigger isn't Snowflake behaviour omg

If you don't give me £184 right now i will have an epileptic seizure because not being able to afford a geniune Kiki Kannibal necklace is stressful...you're gonna do it, right? You're not...abliest...are you?

swordpen · 13/01/2025 17:45

You were 100% manipulated. Having to wait 30 minutes to be released from a porch would not have caused an epileptic seizure. We have to start living in the grown up world at some point and learn how to self-calm if stress is a trigger.

People are responsible for managing their own health conditions.

joliefolle · 14/01/2025 00:12

swordpen · 13/01/2025 17:45

You were 100% manipulated. Having to wait 30 minutes to be released from a porch would not have caused an epileptic seizure. We have to start living in the grown up world at some point and learn how to self-calm if stress is a trigger.

People are responsible for managing their own health conditions.

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Stop being such a hypocrite. If you want to argue that we have to live "in the grown up world" then you need to make "grown up" points. 30 minutes? 100% manipulated? GROW UP.

WiddlinDiddlin · 14/01/2025 05:26

sarah419 · 13/01/2025 15:07

why does she need to have insurance? surely the onus is on you to have insurance?? i don't see how any insurance she might have can cover your house's door? sorry to say, but I would have blocked you too. on top of the hassle caused to her amid her medical condition, she shouldn't also feel stress to worry about costs.

Oooh, I don't know... lets say I am hoovering my clients home and I accidentally twat the side table and the priceless Ming vase falls off and smashes into a thousand tiny bits..

Do I want my clients home insurer to come after me for that bill, which they will because I am a professional and should have insurance... or do I want them to go after my insurance company.

Let me think...

Working in other peoples homes, have insurance! Particularly if you're a sole trader which most cleaners will be. Only an absolute fucking moron works without indemnity and public liability insurance, at the very least.

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