Am I being prudish, or do I have a point?

[AmIJustAPrude]

NC for this.

I've just sent the following email to a company I ordered underwear from:

I've just received my order confirmation and was quite shocked by the accompanying image. I don't want to screenshot it to resend, so hopefully you can work out the image I mean: it is of two women/girls lying on their fronts outside wearing black pants.

The woman (I hope) or girl on the left is very thin, which immediately made me assume she was a teenager. One of her breasts is clearly visible.

I'm not prudish about breasts at all, but it made me extremely uncomfortable to receive an image of what appears to be an almost-naked teenage girl. Given you also sell bras, it seems totally unnecessary for her to be completely topless.

I recommend you review the images you send out to your customers, as this has put me off using your company again.

As I say, I don't have an issue with breasts- I've breastfed in public many a time. It was mainly the fact that, based on her body shape, the woman/girl in the photo looks very young (post-pubescent, but pre-adult) and the exposed breast was completely unnecessary.

So what do you think: did I overreact?

I, too am worrying about this now. But I think we've established:

No design - especially nothing childlike
Nothing pink - see above
No red, purple or black (unless you're an escort or a glamour model)
No "sexy" fabrics (lace is an absolute no no - a perverts dream)
No Brazilian style (shows off the bum cheeks)
Nothing high leg (likewise but thighs)
No matching sets (what are you, a hooker?!)
DEFINITELY no thongs.

Plain white, full knickers. The kind you get in Tesco or M&S as a pack of 5 for a tenner (or maybe more like £15 these days).

That's it.

I can understand the argument but that's an arm not a boob.

WHO is saying they "dislike" her body?!

I think your email was too detailed, almost gratuitous in its description, and the assumptions you make about the age of the model. If I recieved it I think my first thought would be that it wasn't genuine, but had been written by someone who wanted to write about teenage girls and breasts, if I'm honest. It would have been better to simply say you found the images used to be unnecessarily sexualised and were concerned that one of the models appeared to be very young.

I saw the picture
Yeah ,there's no real need for a naked breast..you would think they would want to advertise their bras and have her wear one .
Trying to appear hip and cool I expect

RTFT. It's an elbow!

OMG this thread has given me a good laugh. The diagram, the elbow boob, the email... 😂😂

Its her elbow not boob?

If anyone ever says women are not nasty to women who are slimmer than them you should point them to this thread 😎
quite eye opening tbh!

Unless theyve changed it since your post?

Oh no, is this gonna be another 'cancel the cheque' thread.

WE KNOW IT'S AN ELBOW 😂😂

You think she should complain to the ASA about an elbow? Okay then.

So your main objection is you can't see her face so she might be underage? That's pretty bizarre tbh.
Even if it were a boob, I think complaining about it is a pretty prudish response, there's nothing shameful about a woman's body.

I couldn't agree more. I was slim in my early 20s and always had bigger and out-of-shape women commenting on my appearance. Meanwhile, their 'rolls' were out, and not one of them exercised. Heaven forbid I dare fat shame them.

Yes, she’s clearly a grown woman. What’s shocking is the other women who declare she can’t be as she’s slim.

one even said she was under developed.

how messed up are folks about weight when you see this sort of stuff written down.

Complain for what ..... ?

Yes your a prude.

Also as an older teen I went topless a lot. Its my right, my body and I can do as I wish with it. my age was legal to consent to anything (although theres technically no age illegal to be topless) your offense is entirely your own based on your (yes prudish) notions but does not overrule my rights to my body or that womans body either.

If you dislike promotional emails then just unfollow them but the issue is (lets be honest) nothing to do with side boob nudity from a lingerie company, its your own bias (since you keep going on and on about how its due to her 'looking' young in YOUR OPINION) control over younger women.

Same 🤣🤣🤣

@AmIJustAPrude don't feel bad - thank-you for the laugh!

I don't think you were wrong at all to raise your concern - I'm not surprised that in your role you are perhaps a little more (rightly imho) attuned to such issues.

I am perhaps a little more disappointed that, given you probably spend several hours a day writing on an interactive whiteboard - that that was the best drawing you could do - but... send a copy to Grayson Perry's Art Club - it has a Picasso-esque quality to it.

I can't wait for their reply. I imagine they are still laughing too hard to compose one.

Bloomers for all. Bring back the roll on girdle. Down with leopardprint. Out with tiger stripes, and flowery pink because paedophiles. It's all gone a bit too sexy so ID or cellulite to be shown on demand as proof of age.

It will be the ruin of us all. Beige Restriction is what we need to bring back, when we all knew where we were and there was no unsightly bulging. Or confusing elbows lying about to upset people.

Thanks for this.
Obvious to me the “thin” woman is late 20s at least. She doesn’t look remotely teenage or underage. I disagree with the OP that only teens have that body type. You can’t see any breast at all as it’s her elbow so no gratuitous nudity even by British stds which are prudish compared to the Mediterranean countries that are fine with going topless at any age on the beach/by the pool.

His thread is golden

Can't see it. Where's the nipple? It looks like her elbow.

At a previous job, we used to have the charmingly (forgive us, it was the 90s amd we were young) named 'nutter file' where the most egregious emails would printed out and kept. If you were feeling down, a quick flick through would cheer you right up. This would have gone straight in there.