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Reasonable professional behaviour-Internal examination

56 replies

Sunnywithchanceofshowers · 07/01/2025 20:40

Today i had a gynae appointment with an internal examination. The trainee decided to answer her bleep with her fingers still inside me. I’m not keen to ask my friends this so I’m asking all of you!
I am quite surprised she thought this was ok and trying to decide whether to give some feedback to the department. If i do, i would prefer to do it in a constructive way. The rest of the appointment wasn’t good either as she clearly hadn’t read my notes, but i suppose i did get the information i needed in the end.

OP posts:
LoremIpsumCici · 08/01/2025 13:52

Comtesse · 08/01/2025 13:46

@LoremIpsumCici you dropped this chérie: Biscuit

kirsten dunst shrug GIF by O&O, Inc

Merci beaucoup pour la miette de gâteau

Brefugee · 08/01/2025 14:10

LoremIpsumCici · 08/01/2025 13:01

Complaints like the one OP is contemplating is one of the primary reasons doctors are leaving the NHS. It’s like everyone is only thinking of themselves and not all the other patients that need them, and refuse to understand that yes sometimes another patient is higher priority than you. OP only suffered a little frisson of discomfort and annoyance, and she’s going to complain? When we have over 250 avoidable deaths in U.K. hospitals every week due to staff shortages? Come on. Have a look at the big picture.

Edited

seriously? nobody is going to die because a doctor took the 2 seconds it needs to get her hand out of her vagina.

No wonder complaints are high when HCPs treat patients with no respect. (see, it goes both ways)

5431go · 08/01/2025 17:11

LoremIpsumCici · 08/01/2025 13:01

Complaints like the one OP is contemplating is one of the primary reasons doctors are leaving the NHS. It’s like everyone is only thinking of themselves and not all the other patients that need them, and refuse to understand that yes sometimes another patient is higher priority than you. OP only suffered a little frisson of discomfort and annoyance, and she’s going to complain? When we have over 250 avoidable deaths in U.K. hospitals every week due to staff shortages? Come on. Have a look at the big picture.

Edited

Agree! We need to focus on the bigger picture. Not ideal. Feed it back. But ultimately you don’t know what was on the other end of that pager!

Zov · 08/01/2025 17:17

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CBA.

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Original poster
Sunnywithchanceofshowers · 08/01/2025 20:29

To update- I phoned patient liaison to ask their advice. My main objective being that the doctor reflects on her practice. They were horrified and will take it forward.
The bleep was not an emergency- the conversation was a nice back and forward chat. Hi, no I’m in clinic at the moment, I’ll phone you later. Etc

As someone else has said it would have taken seconds to remove her hand or preferably give the bleep to the nurse to answer and reply.

Thanks for all your replies, they did really help me.

OP posts:
MellersSmellers · 08/01/2025 20:39

Can't say I'd have been comfortable with that one either! Yes, do give feedback - she's a trainee after all so being sensitive to the patient when they're in a vulnerable situation is an important part of her learning

Oops, I see I was late to the party. Good that you did it

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