First aibu so please be kind.
Husband and I have been married for ten years. The last couple of years have been tough with me dealing with a major health issue that I am still recovering from.
I love him very much but he is driving me insane. Generally I do the day to day household stuff mainly because I have been off work due to illness. I pace myself and get it done. The issue is that when he is home rather than doing the big jobs that need doing like mowing the lawn, edging the lawn, fixing stuff he decides to take over my jobs and does them what I consider badly - for example he says the dishwasher hasn’t worked properly and then he either redoes it or starts doing it all noisily by hand - last night while I was trying to watch a film at 11pm. Or then leaves loads of stuff on the draining board so I have to put it away anyway. He leaves cups and glasses everywhere. It was the same when I couldn’t do anything due to being very unwell. In a way I feel like my illness was an excuse not to get stuff done and fixed.
He’s obsessive with hobbies - not cycling but painting and editing both of which he has set up spaces for in our lounge room which is already very cramped. He takes hours doing these things in our shared space plugged into his podcasts and can’t be roused unless you shout!
He also spends hours in the toilet on his phone.
I’ve just snapped because I woke up late desperate for a wee - he’s in the toilet (there is only one), he never cleans it, hardly ever sprays anything. Then I go to the kitchen to make a coffee as I do everyday. He’s there - again it’s a very small space. I get my coffee go and sit on the bed. He follows me in with a game on his phone and I just want space.
It’s really pissing me off today. But it will be fine we’ll say sorry I hope and laugh it off. But AIBU?