To ask for some perspective? *TW: DA*

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Almost a month ago, my husband (DH) clipped me around the ear to— in his words— "prove a point." He said I was being childish and bratty. Naturally, I left, and I've been staying with my parents ever since. We don't have children.

Now, he wants me to go back home. The problem is, he isn't remorseful or sorry. He still believes the clip around the ear was justified. He’s even said that he won’t tolerate "disobedience or misbehaviour."

I know deep down I shouldn’t go back, but my resolve is slipping because he’s being extra nice at the moment. He keeps saying that we don’t have to be together anymore, that we can just live together as separated people.. but I'm worried it's a ploy to get me back where he wants me.

Please tell me this isn’t normal and that not all men are like this. I need some clarity and perspective.

Please do not go back to this abusive bully. Please value your own physical and mental safety.
Pp’s advise getting advice and support from Woman’s Aid or similar local services, do the Freedom Programme, and start to live your life unafraid.
You have already done the difficult thing of leaving him, please do not go back into his dangerous reach.

Now, he wants me to go back home.

Of course he does! He needs to have someone to control and slap. He's missing his favourite whipping boy.
Don't you dare contact him, you've done the hardest bit. Look around to see what services are available to help you start over.

Any partner (or friend) that hurts you physically or mentally, does not care about you.

Why go back to someone who doesn't care?

So sorry, but absolutely well done for leaving

Please don't go back OP, you'e done the hardest part and left so stick to your guns, the language is horrible, so he's adding physical abuse to financial and I'm assuming likely emotional as well. Figure out what you can afford by yourself. Can you get PIP or DLA and pay for someone to come in to help you if you find somewhere by yourself as I'm assuming your father's house is not ideal.
But whatever happens don't go back, I've awful visions of you becoming well and truly trapped as I suspect he may make sure you can't leave next time.

If you go back you will be telling him it is ok for him to hit you. Why would you do that?

He'll hit you again, only worse next time.

Definitely don’t go anywhere near him OP. Get rid of him ASAP.

Who owns the house?
You can’t go back, he will get worse and hurt you.
You are already alone even when you are with him, he doesn’t love or respect you.