To be wide awake worrying?

[wildfellhall]

Just that really.

It's 4.41 in the UK

What are you worrying about?

Everything. Would not know where to start. X

Start from the beginning if you can.

I’m awake too though mine is menopause

Thanks for asking; some health issues, & dd has exams starting tomorrow and was so overwhelmed that she found it almost impossible to revise over the holiday. I feel so responsible for not helping her be a better student.

But I was a shocking one 🤦‍♀️

Hope you get some rest oddsocks

If it’s any consolation, @wildfellhall, I skated all through school, was terrible, awful, horrible at studying but I went to a shit school so I did ok.
But then I got to uni and didn’t know how to study and it was next to impossible for me. I struggled every day of my life while I was there.
My mum tried to make me a better student and I blew her off because I was a smartass little know it all.
I managed to grow up and get a good job and everything turned out fine, despite my best efforts to be a jerk. I don’t even think about school any more. I doubt you do either.
Your daughter will grow up and get a good job and have a happy life and school will be a distant memory.
I promise. ❤️

@wildfellhall I am too. Woke up about half an hour ago. Anxiety is causing heartburn! Too lazy to go and get rennies! Up in an hour for first day back at work today and an activity I’ve organised so feeling even more stressed!

What exams are they OP? How could you have helped? What could you do today? E.g. make her a nice breakfast? Reassure her that no exams are the end of the world? Tell her you will help devise a plan for the next set (- such as watching youtube revision guides; organising notes; doing mock tests). That's for you not to go through with her today)

I'm up because I want to make changes in my life and am too scared of the upheaval. Also two besties moving away at the same time (not together - just coincidence) and am feeling lonely.

I woke up at 4.30 and initially forgot my worries, then they hit me like a tonne of bricks and now I’m the same. Going to be very tired today

Balance app guided meditation might Help. You can subscribe for 5 pounds for year 1. Worry is like rocking chair, takes a lot of effort but doesn’t Get you anywhere. Also when you are worrying write it all out in a notebook, all of it, and decide which of it is fear and which is reality. This helps me stop ruminating and gets it out of my head.

I've been up top for the last 2 hours, woke up feeling a bit off and trying to calm heart rate down.

Your daughter will do the best she can do. Support, encourage and tell her no matter what it will be okay, because it will. The most important thing is that she's a kind girl, who tries her best.

I find music amazing at helping to override the unhelpful, worrying feelings. Whether it be calming piano or classical, or something a little more upbeat.

Wishing you both all the best x

You too. Try not to worry about exams they only need enough to move onto the next stage of life.

It never helped me, made me even more annoyed. I did Silver cloud through NHS some time ago and completely stuck on this part - all my worries were (and still are) realistic. E.g I never worry about the possibility of flooding on our street even in this weather it’s impossible but the chances of DD getting the next grade in her exam are no more then 50% so my worry is realistic.
Your description is very spot on @Me345 it is like a tone of bricks. At least I woke up at 5.50 am today, yesterday and the day before it was about 4,40 am and it felt so useless.

It's weirdly reassuring to realise I'm not the only one who wakes up in the night worrying about everything and everyone! OP you are a good parent to her, or you wouldn't be lying there worrying! There are some good suggestions above re helping her in the future with exams. At her age there are always options, it's never too late. Good luck to her for today!

I was awake worrying too, very good friend been diagnosed with terminal cancer. Such a shock. I will be taking her dog, which is causing me a lot of worry about having 2 dogs, cost and practical. So I have had very little sleep last 4-5 nights since I found out.

Try taking Magnesium before bed. Game changer.

Also awake since 4am. I have terrible anxiety, about so many ridiculous things.

I am a late boomer, who travelled the world, yet am now terrified of driving to my local town, who broke through the glass ceiling in career terms and yet am now stressed about how to cope financially and who has renovated several houses but am now worried about how to find an electrician.

W.t.a.f happened.

I put it down to menopause, a raft of personal difficult issues in quick succession, Brexit upsetting my retirement plans, Covid locking me down, the media pedalling scary stories day after day, etc. But I can’t really decide where this terrible anxiety is coming from or how to calm things down.

Anxiety is the worse! My 6 year old who is in y2 has been saying over the last three days that she is not going back to school ever again. Turns out it’s SATS she’s anxious about. They call it independent learning and she is not aloud to ask for help not even when there are words she doesn’t understand so she can’t even answer the question. She’s saying the teacher gets angry with them if they haven’t answered the questions or if they get too many wrong. She’s been crying hysterically about it. I don’t know what to do 😩

Thank you all so much for your posts. I empathize with anyone struggling. My life feels so much harder than when I was younger.
I will try to help dd and reassure her.
I have always been a good sleeper so being awake in the middle of the night is not typical for me.
I have put on weight and have a long term mobility issue which I'm working hard on with Physio but it feels like two steps forward and four steps back which is psychologically very rugged.
But thank you and I hope everyone has a good day.

Can I ask what dosage you take?

@Lourdes12 Your child is being treated horribly, and that teacher is bang out of order. SATs are utterly meaningless to the child who sits them, they're just a vague measure so the government can check whether schools and the country as a whole are on track with educating our children. The school tried to do this with my older DD in Y6, and every time she came home worrying, I told her they were pointless, that she was not going to do any extra work, and I would be more than happy for her to not answer any questions if she didn't want to.

Your child is only Y2 though, and most schools don't even mention SATs to Y2 - it's just another activity they do that week. In your case, I would be complaining to the school, and tell them to stop putting this pressure on your child, and if they carry on, you will be telling your child to refuse to answer anything, or even pulling her out of school on that week.

I get that 100%, Dream, and agree with you.