Hi all,
Just hoping to get a bit of outside perspective on this! Myself and DH have a friend couple who I've known for over a decade, but who he's known for much longer. We live nearby and have always got on well and met up frequently to hang out, even gone on holidays together. I have started to feel over the past year or two that we seem to be less of a priority to them, or more accurately that we are more disposable. We still get on v well but we often find that they cancel or change plans with us at v short notice. There has been an occasion where they said they'd meet up, then cancelled, saying another couple were just coming up for a drink and it turned out they'd had a big boozy night with them. It also turns out they went out on NYD to an event we've done together a few times before, told us afterwards and said "oh, I thought you'd plans that day"... Like I don't expect to do everything together but that just felt like they'd actively tried to avoid doing this thing with us! I know this probably sounds a bit petty but I feel like we should pull back from them, I'm totally fine with making things more infrequent, as long as when we do make plans they are in general followed through on. I just don't want to make plans with people and have it constantly cancelled or delayed like our time isn't worth anything, or feel like we are the back up friends. Anyone else had this happen?