Should I reach out to ex?

[strawberryvolvic]

I was thinking of reaching out to my ex. He hasn't seen the children in 2 years and contacted me in the summer to see them again. I felt like too much time had passed and spoke to the children and they didn't show interest in wanting to see him again "why bother when he will just disappear again" (something he did constantly) their words. However i've had a change of mind and I think it would be a good idea to start up contact again (I think the children would agree if he promises to be consistent) Would it be bad to reach out to him? What should I say? I had thought he may have reached out around xmas but he didn't.

I didn't say it was better. I said kids do better.

He’s not interested. If he really was, he would be in their lives now, and you wouldn’t be deliberating over it.

then why did he contact in the summer?

and there's is statistics for this? the only ones i can find suggest that kids do worse in life in general when they have an absent father. (unless he was abusive of course)

Probably in order to repeat the same behaviour. Again.

so maybe i should wait for him to message again? their birthdays are coming up, that's usually when he reaches out as his is the day before my sons so hard to ignore.

What happened when he contacted in the summer ?