I feel hurt by this - AIBU?

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So before Christmas my husband suggests we have our own dinner , me cook and it be us 4 (us and our 2 kids)

I mentioned to my family and there was uproar. They flipped and were not happy with me as I’d be to them for all the years prior

we didn’t speak for a bit then calmed and we’ve all been fine. I had my small Christmas and everything seems okay (family were invited round to see the kids btw we didn’t stop people! Just said how the kids wanted to sty and play with their toys which they did)

I find out very recently that my sister who I class as my best friend has said I am inconsiderate, selfish and play the victim? When I initially told them the plans she’d said all of this about me. I didn’t really expect that from her and I’m a bit hurt by it

We decided many years ago, when our own children were of an age that dragging them around on Christmas Day was a drama, that we would simply stay at home. Others were welcome to visit, but we weren’t going anywhere. Until then, we’d gone to parents every year. Now, my own children are grown, and they all still come “home” for Christmas, but every year I wonder if it’ll be the last time, as their own lives change. Life moves on for everyone.
If your sister is really your “best friend”, talk to her about it. Tell her how upset you are to hear that she feels that way, but even more so that she apparently chose to say it to someone else instead of addressing the issue directly with you.

Exactly.