To be a bit annoyed

[Poodle123456]

I had plans with a friend, not a best friend but someone I meet up with and speak to alot. She cancelled as her son is having a very minor procedure in a weeks time and wanted to get sorted. Fair enough I accepted the reason even though a bit disappointed as I was looking forward to some child free time. Then I see the same day we were meant to be meeting, she’s out with other friends. AIBU to feel a bit annoyed that she cancelled with me then made other plans? Maybe it’s just me but I hate it when people cancel for a better offer.

That's really shit OP. I'd be re-evaluating the friendship.

Did you ask her about it?

I would have, rather than stew on it.

Like her picture and move on

She's not a good friend OP but one word of warning is just make sure the pictures were posted contemporaneously (could they have been from a previous day?)

I'd want to be sure the photos weren't from another day before feeling upset. If they have dumped you for a better offer, then you sadly know where you stand in the friendship hierarchy.

Be honest will her otherwise it will ear you up.

“Hi X, I hope all has gone well with DS procedure and he’s back home safe and sound. I just wanted to bring up something that’s been playing on my mind about last week. I totally understood that you needed to cancel our plans last week due to wanting to get your self sorted for the week ahead however I was a bit hurt to see later that day you had gone to meet X. I hope it was just a misunderstanding but I wanted to get it off my chest.”

They’re from today- pictures tagged ‘Sunday’ and there’s snow in them.

Out where? Is she on her driveway, larking with the neighbours, and the children?

Out with friends.

I think it’s really rude of her to do that BUT the snow day kind of changes things as it is out of the ordinary and people will have had to cancel plans because of the snow and also want to get the kids out to make the most of it.

That is too bad. Sorry I have no advice, as I am not sure what I would do in that situation, I would be quite hurt though.

Yeah I’d get it if it was a full on snow day but it’s not, she also cancelled 3 days ago.

The excuse was flimsy enough (get what sorted for a mini op happening in a week)? But yea bad form and silly of her if she knows you can see her SM.
Guess it was a better option, but she should have been honest and rescheduled with you rather than lie.

Where did you 'see' that she was out wiuth other friends. Even if she was, you could give er the benefit of the doubt that she just got dates mixed up. Best to talk it over before ruining a friendship.

I’d be annoyed she lied and probably not rush to make any more plans.

Yes, that is annoying. The only reasonable explanation is that friends invited her and child out to enjoy the snow. However, still pretty awful and I’d feel hurt as well.

Yep, I would be annoyed, and I would definitely tell her I am and why.

If she cancelled three days ago then it’s not really the same as cancelling the same day and then having other plans.

Get shot of her now

She still cancelled plans because something "better" came along. I believe that if you make plans then you stick to them unless something out of your control comes up like illness or bad weather or car trouble.