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Anyone around for a hand hold? Trigger warning

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Iwasjustasking · 05/01/2025 13:25

Is anyone around for a hand hold please? Currently sat in emergency care convinced I have cervical cancer and I keep on having panick attacks. I haven’t had a smear for ten years (please no judgment at all) but for the past few months have had bloody discharge, I went to the doctors Friday as have been bleeding for 14 days only a few days after my last period, I have horrific back pain and a lot of blood in my urine, please talk me down. I am a mess

OP posts:
cheekycee · 05/01/2025 18:32

I'm not sure but could it be a UIT? Thinking of you, OP. You're in the best place xx

Bestnotask · 05/01/2025 18:44

At 41 I had fibroids which made me have almost continuous heavy periods. I took the mini pill and had no periods at all. It may be something that can easily be sorted. Hope you can relax tonight, if you can distract your mind. Writing down what you want to ask GP is a really good idea from pp. Take care

Tinselinthewhoopsiebasket · 05/01/2025 18:46

When my dm had cervical cancer she had no symptoms whatsoever.. Try and relax op. Maybe present at the GP at opening time. This guarantees an appointment at my surgery. Not right then but def that day.

youareonlyhereonce · 05/01/2025 18:55

Hand hold OP - you've had some good advice - hope you get it sorted and antibiotics is the answer to your symptoms

Iwasjustasking · 05/01/2025 20:24

Thankyou everyone for taking the time to comment, I really appreciate it, I’m an absolute mess but I know I always reach for the worst case scenario and I need to try and put that into context in my mind.

OP posts:
paddyclampster · 05/01/2025 20:28

You’ve taken a positive first step by going to see someone. Get yourself booked into the GP tomorrow to get to the bottom of this. Remember, most people who get fast tracked because they have red flag symptoms DON’T have cancer!

MixedCouple2 · 05/01/2025 20:31

Your Gp should do a fast tracked 2 week referral to the Gynae department. Where all the appropriate teats will done. I used to work in bookings team for them and dealt with 2 week referrals.
Any abnormal bleeding should be taken seriously at any age.

I hope the Drs take it seriously.

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · 05/01/2025 20:32

Iwasjustasking · 05/01/2025 20:24

Thankyou everyone for taking the time to comment, I really appreciate it, I’m an absolute mess but I know I always reach for the worst case scenario and I need to try and put that into context in my mind.

When was your last smear test and do you remember the result? If recent and clear then the chances are slim that it is cervical cancer.

My friend (more like sister) died of cervical cancer at age 35 and her symptoms in the early stages were similar to yours so I do understand why you are panicking. That said she was a bloody idiot and never went for a single smear test.

However, there are various other reasons why you could look like you have blood in your urine which include kidney issues, UTI, internal tears. A tear in the vaginalmwall after sex can cause bleeding.

I have PCOS and if a cyst ruptures I can have horrific pain and bleeding.

Id it fresh bright red oxygenated blood or is it darker?

Is there any chance at all that you could be pregnant and it being a miscarriage?

My rambling point is that it is possible its cancer, but it is also possible that it is a dozen other innocuous things.

Try to breathe, see your GP tomorrow if you can and try and do something to distract yourself.

itsgettingweird · 05/01/2025 20:35

I had continuous bleeding and back pain etc. I had adenomyosis. So when I had my period the lining would also go into the wall of my uterus.

When my period had finished the blood in my uterus wall would then be expelled. The cramps were awful, so was the bloating and back pain.

I bled for 82 days once before I said "enough".

I was out on northisterone daily until til I could have a hysterectomy as otherwise I'd just bleed every day.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 05/01/2025 20:37

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · 05/01/2025 20:32

When was your last smear test and do you remember the result? If recent and clear then the chances are slim that it is cervical cancer.

My friend (more like sister) died of cervical cancer at age 35 and her symptoms in the early stages were similar to yours so I do understand why you are panicking. That said she was a bloody idiot and never went for a single smear test.

However, there are various other reasons why you could look like you have blood in your urine which include kidney issues, UTI, internal tears. A tear in the vaginalmwall after sex can cause bleeding.

I have PCOS and if a cyst ruptures I can have horrific pain and bleeding.

Id it fresh bright red oxygenated blood or is it darker?

Is there any chance at all that you could be pregnant and it being a miscarriage?

My rambling point is that it is possible its cancer, but it is also possible that it is a dozen other innocuous things.

Try to breathe, see your GP tomorrow if you can and try and do something to distract yourself.

Your top 2 paragraphs are thoughtless and unhelpful really, OP explained about her last smear test in the OP and asked for no judgement.

Bootychoice · 05/01/2025 20:38

Oh Op :( I'm so sorry your going through this.

It sounds similar to when I had a womb infection, may be tmi but there was A LOT of blood for about a week and a half after my period. It could also be an irritated cervix? Surprised they didn't look at your cervix though. I'm really hoping it's something not too serious x

FrowntonAbbey · 05/01/2025 20:39

Iwasjustasking · 05/01/2025 15:43

They checked my urine, clear of infection, I’m in such a bad place right now

So they did test your urine? You said they didn’t do any tests so you are probably forgetting things due to the stress. Did they take any blood for testing?

PantherchameleonsocksforChristmas · 05/01/2025 20:44

I had bleeding in between periods a couple of years ago and did the same as you - thought of the worst case scenario and decided it was cancer. I hadn't ever had a smear test. The fright of this happening encouraged me to book my first one. It wasn't cancer. I was told it was likely hormonal (I was breastfeeding but a year or so Postpartum). Please don't go frightening yourself. Worrying before you know is such a waste, when there's probably no reason to.

CitizenZ · 05/01/2025 20:53

I also went 10 years without having a smear. Life was just busy etc etc. When I did get one, it came back level 3 abnormal (the worst level) and I was terrified because I had no idea how long it had been at that level. At the hospital they scraped the abnormal cells off my cervix, and everything has been fine ever since. I understand you're imagining the worst case scenario, I did that, it's what we do, but also take comfort that much of the time everything is fine.

FagsMagsandBags · 05/01/2025 22:02

Iwasjustasking · 05/01/2025 20:24

Thankyou everyone for taking the time to comment, I really appreciate it, I’m an absolute mess but I know I always reach for the worst case scenario and I need to try and put that into context in my mind.

Generally, it's not the worst case scenario. You could have cervical cancer that's treatable and awful but by the end of the year you're cancer free and life is good again. You probably don't have cervical cancer but some infection, some much more minor problem that will be sorted within a few weeks/months at the most and life is good again.

I was sort of but not in your situation last year. Tests after tests in 2023 to be diagnosed with (oesophageal) cancer in the December and starting treatment in January. Exactly a year ago I was waiting for treatment to start and worried about how I'd deal with it all. I also faced the worst case scenario because it seemed to me that if I could do that and find a way to accept the possibility then I could get on with using my energy to deal with what was happening in the present. I don't know if you can do that, but my god it helps. It helped me get through all of last year. Treatment got rid of the tumour but there was another one almost immediately afterwards or maybe it was growing along with the first one. Who knows! That time I thought I was definitely done for and went face to face with it again and accepted it. Then I had to have a stent which perforated my oesophagus and I found myself on an operating table being prepared for emergency surgery that I would die without and also that I might die with. So I faced it again. Here I am in 2025, cancer free (the op was to remove my oesophagus and replace it by making a new one out of my stomach. I now have a tiny stomach), recovering from surgery, a bit feeble, but alive and almost well and, and, and ... I feel I was able to get through all of it by facing the most awful thing, accepting it and then dealing with what was in front of me. I have no idea if this will help and I'm sorry for making it a bit too me, me, me but I just know that my weird form of "I might die!" mindfulness helped me so much. I was, at times, so fucking Pollyanna about everything that you'd want to slap me to stop me being such a little sunbeam for five minutes. Seriously, I wanted to slap myself.

I also had good friends around and my god that helped. So, lean on your husband who loves you and wants to be there for you. Do whatever works for you and you'll get through it. On a more practical level, give your GP hell - well not hell, but be firm, take your husband with you if you feel he can be firmer than you - and insist on getting tests done because as helpful as facing up to the worst and accepting it might happen is, the best thing is knowing exactly what is going on and for that to happen you need either a diagnosis or a referal leading to diagnosis. Best of luck with next week. You're stronger than you think. We all are.

Mathsbabe · 05/01/2025 22:55

Thirty odd years ago when my mother was close to 60 she finally went to her GP for vaginal bleeding. It turned out to be cancer and she'd had it for years. She had surgery and radiotherapy and died aged 90 of dementia.
Chances are it is nothing but even it is what you're worrying about treatment is amazing. Good luck.

WhimsicalGubbins76 · 05/01/2025 23:02

Op, have you considered it could be peri?
I started to have symptoms exactly like you describe-I bled for 17 days straight, had awful pains, finally it tailed off-then 8 days later, bam! Started bleeding again.
It was relentless. Because I’m in my 40s I just assumed peri-but went to get checked out just to be safe.
Im very much looking forward to finally hitting menopause-it’s costing me a fortune in pads and tampons!

Sunshineandrainbow · 06/01/2025 21:55

@Iwasjustasking did you manage to contact GP TODAY?

ihatetaxreturns · 06/01/2025 22:14

WhimsicalGubbins76 · 05/01/2025 23:02

Op, have you considered it could be peri?
I started to have symptoms exactly like you describe-I bled for 17 days straight, had awful pains, finally it tailed off-then 8 days later, bam! Started bleeding again.
It was relentless. Because I’m in my 40s I just assumed peri-but went to get checked out just to be safe.
Im very much looking forward to finally hitting menopause-it’s costing me a fortune in pads and tampons!

Yep I had loads of irregular bleeding and painful periods and after investigations I had a slightly thickened endometrium, they were confident it was jusy my age (43) but tests were done just in case and it was all fine and benign

I was fitted with the mirena coil to calm the bleeding down and it's been a game changer

And as an added bonus has helped my anxiety as well.

WhimsicalGubbins76 · 06/01/2025 22:42

ihatetaxreturns · 06/01/2025 22:14

Yep I had loads of irregular bleeding and painful periods and after investigations I had a slightly thickened endometrium, they were confident it was jusy my age (43) but tests were done just in case and it was all fine and benign

I was fitted with the mirena coil to calm the bleeding down and it's been a game changer

And as an added bonus has helped my anxiety as well.

Ahh you’re lucky! I’m not a candidate for the coil (I forget why-something to do with my immune system) so my only option is hysterectomy.
Not something I relish the thought of…

Here4thechocs · 06/01/2025 22:45

Iwasjustasking · 05/01/2025 13:25

Is anyone around for a hand hold please? Currently sat in emergency care convinced I have cervical cancer and I keep on having panick attacks. I haven’t had a smear for ten years (please no judgment at all) but for the past few months have had bloody discharge, I went to the doctors Friday as have been bleeding for 14 days only a few days after my last period, I have horrific back pain and a lot of blood in my urine, please talk me down. I am a mess

As bad as this is, in itself, I hope it’s fibroid. It may very well be. I hope it’s not what you fear the most , OP. All the very best.

LovelyChickens · 07/01/2025 17:23

Good luck OP. Well done for getting help and I hope you have reassuring news soon x

Katemax82 · 07/01/2025 19:45

Op at 40 I had loads of bleeding when not on a period for about 6 months and convinced myself I had cervical cancer. It turned out to be an unsuitable pill. They had to give me norithesterone (I think its called) to stop the bleeding and do a smear, also they did a blood test and prescribed me folic acid. Hopefully your GP can help you xx

Lucylu1984 · 18/01/2025 12:05

Did you get to the bottom.of this OP? Hope you're OK xx

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