AIBU for not chasing a friendship?

[Sunnydaze22]

I was speaking to someone on and off for a few months and we ended up dating.
After a few dates she decided that it was more friendship and we both agreed not to do anything else.

We did for a 6 week period speak every day - all day during the time that we were dating and got really close.

After we decided to be friends I didn't want to overstep anything and have messaged here and there and we speak every few days but not to the extent that we did when we were dating. She messages too but often her replies are quite short and blunt.

Twice in the last few weeks she has messaged me asking if we are still friends as things don't seem as they were. I always say yes of course. But she always remarks that I'm not as "friendly".

I like her as a friend but no idea what if anything to read into this. AIBU for not chasing and messaging someone who just wants to be friends ?

Semms quite contradictory. Her replies are often short and blunt but she's saying you're the unfriendly one? Is it that you don't really want to be friends and would rather drop it altogether? Were you hurt that she wanted to drop the romantic side?

I was a little hurt initially but we left it a week and talked it through like adults. I've always been friendly with her. I don't often initiate conversations so not sure if that's the issue.

Id happily be friends and speak often, with no hidden agenda

I'd mention to her that you found her replies blunt and short and interpreted that as her wanting to engage less.

But yes if course things have changed. She didn't want to pursue anything romantic, that's a rejection that'll hurt at least a little and shape the relationship going forward surely.

Maybe she's just wanting you to chase her, even though she says she isn't looking for romance, perhaps she likes the boost of having someone working hard while she doesn't bother. It's up to you what you do going forward

Yes, it kinda felt like she wants me to chase her or message her like when we were dating. But im not going to that!

She Is dating someone so not sure why she would want that.