To feel uneasy at how much time BF is spending with his ex on holiday

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My BF is in Australia with some friends for their friends wedding. He and his ex broke up 4 years ago, he claims there is nothing between them etc. and I believe him.
However I just asked what he did last night and he said he went to a jazz bar, I asked who with and he said that it was meant to be a group of them but in the end it was just him and his ex. She is engaged and her fiancé is there too but didn't go to the bar.
Last time I called, he was walking home from an event with her, the rest had left early.
They have also been going surfing together and yeah her fiancé has been going to but he would never surf normally.
We have been together for 2.5 years and we are expecting our first baby but I always feel like I don't compare to his ex.

WIBU to ask him to spend less time with her alone, for example if they plan to go to a bar and everyone but her cancels, he also cancels. If they are at an event and everyone else leaves, he goes to. Is that unfair?

I can see why it’s making you feel uncomfortable. Have you told him how it makes you feel?

I've asked why they are always alone and he just tells me that she is engaged and I shouldn't worry so much.

I wouldn't ask him not to spend time with her in a public place, that is basically saying you don't trust him, which is quite insulting, but I do think you should tell him that it is making you feel a little uncomfortable thinking of them hanging out together, there is absolutely nothing wrong with your feelings of insecurity, as long as you acknowledge that they are just feelings and you aren't expecting him not to spend time with her then he should be understanding.

If they were spending time together privately in his or her accommodation I would not be happy with it, but if they are there with mates and she is there with her fiance how likely is it that is happening?

Try not to worry about it, is the ex local to you or have any part in his life usually?

why you didnt go?

I couldn't get the time off work and don't know the couple so not invited to the wedding.

At least he’s being honest with how much time they are spending together, I imagine asking him not to will just lead to him being dishonest. I would feel so uncomfortable with this scenario, especially as he’s at the other side of the world- and I’m very chilled about things like this. Did you know she was going? They sound like they’re having a bloody mini break together with jazz clubs and surfing?? I’d not be happy at all. I wonder what her fiancé really thinks 🤔