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To ask how to get over being embarrassed?

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Meh7 · 03/01/2025 20:15

We live in an HA house that’s on a mainly owned estate. The houses are small but it’s a nice quiet place to live. We have given up our bedroom so our kids can have a bedroom each.

I’m embarrassed to have people round, especially play dates for my 8 year old and when they have been to others houses their houses are amazing. I’m aware this is probably a me problem and that most people wouldn’t be judgmental but I guess I’m worried about my child being embarrassed or even other kids saying things as they get older. We only have one large room downstairs and a very small kitchen so wanted our youngest to have their own room so that they could play in it and have friends round. I just feel like I get one job done in the house and find something else I’m not happy about.

Is it just that my child is friends with some well off people or are we an anomaly?

I’d love to have all new internal doors as I think it’d make a massive difference to how the house looks but it’s a big expense for a house we don’t own, and at the end of the day we will still only have a small house?

I really would love to just not care what people thought 😢

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glittertime · 03/01/2025 21:58

If anyone is judging you because you live in H/A it says more about them op not nice people.
If your happy and the kids are happy who gives a fuck.
I live on a housing estate and love it my home is small cheap and homely.
If anyone wants to judge me go ahead coudnt care less.
I dont own a huge house and drive a 4x4 and bring in 10k aweek and shop at m&s weekly.
I have a little flat done up how i like it shops on the door step i work enough to pay my bills and feed myself.
But im so happy thats all that matters.

JMSA · 03/01/2025 21:58

I would honestly just admire you for putting your kids first to that degree.
The other thing is, kids are mainly pretty unobservant and focus on themselves; I'll bet the friends haven't even noticed that there doesn't seem to be a bedroom for you!
They'll be too focused on the toys and snacks Grin

JMSA · 03/01/2025 21:59

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 03/01/2025 21:22

I don’t agree that ‘kids don’t care’. Plenty of kids are very quick to point out the inadequacies of a friends house. We live in a four bed detached with recent renovations and a decent sized garden and yet we still have kids come through finding fault with the garden, size of the rooms, the car!!! Some kids I won’t invite back as they make me feel so crap.

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shewillbefinestopworrying · 03/01/2025 22:14

They judge you more on snacks! Don’t be worrying x

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