To only invite p1s to party

[Jules198711]

DD is in a composite class (14 p1s and 7 p2s). She is having a birthday party soon at a soft play so it is pay per head.
She has other children she wants to invite like cousins and neighbours.
Aibu to only invite the p1s from her class and not the p2s.
I don't want anyone to feel left out but I can't afford to invite all of them and it would also take it over the max number of children allowed.

It’s fine. People who insist on whole class parties are either rich or batshit. I hate the ‘if you can’t invite them all then don’t have one’. Why should a child miss out on ever having a birthday party just because the parents cannot afford to pay for the entire class on top of other friends and family? If you’re splitting off an entire section on the class then no one can reasonably complain

Sounds fine to me as long as you don't invite any P2s

Totally fine. My DCs have been in composite classes right through primary, and I don't think they have even been invited to a party from the "other half" of the class.

It seems a bit of an arbitrary way to split the class. Can she not tell you five or so friends she wants to invite from school? Plus neighbours and cousins and that's plenty of people for a softplay party (and cheaper than inviting a load of kids who she's not necessarily friends with but happen to have been born in the same school year).

What is a p1 and p2?

Fairly obviously it’s primary 1 and primary 2 🙄

Thanks. Who peed on your cornflakes?

I think that sounds absolutely fine OP

That's fine OP. The "all invited" thing makes sense if there's a danger of one person being socially excluded. So long as there's a clear rule with no exceptions then it's fine to have a subsection rather than the whole class

I think it’s fine to not invite the P2s. However I don’t think it works well to combine school friends with cousins, neighbours. I would just invite school friends and keep family separate. That’s just me though!

So would you have a separate party or just not invite those other people?

Absolutely fine, and also absolutely fine to mix friends from school and out of school - all 3 of my kids have always done that.

Reception and Year 1s

Personally, I just wouldn’t invite them. But then my children don’t live near their cousins so aren’t close to them.

Thanks everyone for your replies! I'll invite just the P1s, I've been over thinking it for sure!

Cousins will definitely be invited, they are all very close so DD will want them there.

Yes p1 and p2 is primary 1 and 2 (i am in scotland - its equivalent to reception and year one in England)

Thanks everyone x