To ask if you are happier post divorce?

[Jammy4]

Do you regret the divorce? Are you happier now? And how is the exh doing?

Happier, without a doubt. My ex is remarried and has a child, has worked on themselves in a way that would never have been possible if we’d carried on - as have I; divorce gave us both the clarity we’d been missing and the space for some introspection along the way. Ex seems happy - all I have ever wanted for them - and I am in a fulfilling, wonderful relationship which thrives because I know exactly what I do and don’t want and we can both communicate well. Life is far, far too short to simply truck along.

So much happier. I should have left many years before my hand was forced.

I am blissfully single and have been for 15 years now. I won’t ever have another romantic relationship, I cba.

XH remarried and from what I see, is far more compatible with his new wife than he was with me. I was desperate to have DC and just married the next boyfriend who came along so I could make that a reality.

So our lives are very different, but we are both happier.

The adults are probably happier.

the kids, I don’t think so.

Much happier.
It was my decision to split.
ExH remarried & is living the life that makes him happy.
I’ve been with DP 8 years & happy. I won’t get married again.

Mine are definitely. They have volunteered this info. In fact DS told me off for not splitting up sooner.

Much. As are my kids.

Hmmmm, interesting thread @Jammy4 ........

I was happy when I was married, I loved my XH deeply, and was pretty blindsided when he announced he no longer loved me and left.....

However, in the last few years, as a single person, I've done some fantastic things, which I'd never have done if I'd stayed married.

I suppose I'm equally as happy pre and post divorce, just maybe in different ways....

Much happier. Should have dumped him years earlier than I did - I was way too loyal for my own good. Eventually saw the light when I realised as well as various forms of abuse, he was also cheating. I have no idea how he is, but he will be living off a woman for sure (maybe the OW, maybe not, don’t know or care). He won’t be happy.

Most definitely. My life is better in every way.

Don't know, don't care what ex is up to, more of the same probably.

This old chestnut. It comes up every time this discussion gets opened. It's not anywhere near as black and white as this.

Divorce can be highly disruptive to children, no point denying it. But it's by no means automatic and each case is different. Watching two people tear themselves to shreds or clinging like grim death to the wreckage of a marriage isn't great for anyone's mental health and the assumption that this is always better is just wrong.

I'm a million times happier post divorce. Night to day. My life opened up in a way I couldn't have imagined. I'm happier and more successful on literally every measure you can imagine. My daughter has almost no memory of her parents being married but is very happy living with me and has a good relationship with her father (and her stepfather). It was a no brainer for us and I've never had a day's regret.

Having grown up in a household with 2 unhappy parents who should have divorced, life was definitely 'simpler' but not happier.

My siblings and I all agreed when we were children we wished they had divorced when we were children (we begged/petitioned my DM at the time) & we still feel the same way as adults.

We deserved love and stability, living with 2 unhappy parents who didn't love each other made a mockery of our 'family unit' because it's impossible for the lack of connection between your parents to not have a huge impact, it makes your 'home' feel unsafe, because it's not build on solid foundations.

Having said that blended families/step parents does look pretty awful (from reading posts on here rather than real life observations where they seem to work well) so we were spared that I guess

A million times happier in every single way. The divorce is tricky as we have different countries and a narcissistic to take into account. The kids have struggled but that’s more because our current living situation now lets them see exactly what kind of person he is so they are really looking at their relationships with him. But our home is happy and safe - I am without a doubt a better mother to them all. You couldn’t pay me enough to go back to how it was. I miss nothing, even though I am currently financially much worse off.

This is me!! We are so much happier too.
We live on pennies , you couldn't pay me enough to go back to him !