Friend should be a big more sensitive

[Thedoctorswife1]

I have two preschoolers. High high energy. No local family support so it all falls on DH and me and we both work. Him FT and me concurrent PT jobs.

friend and husband have one child same age as ours and work full time. They have grandparents on their doorstep and one set do a lot of childcare (in my eyes)- overnight twice a week and regular full weekends plus one full weekday and overnight a week.

they are constantly complaining about lack of family input as another set of grandparents are less involved. It feels really frustrating to listen to constantly without saying “you have no idea!”

Aibu?

I understand your frustration @Thedoctorswife1 but your friend sees only her reality. It’s not easy to put herself in your shoes and see yours. Maybe just answer with ‘yeah, I know what you mean having no input from one set of GPs. Get that completely as we don’t have any family support at all’. Repeat as necessary. But she may still not get it and I think, whether she does or doesn’t, it won’t change things for you anyway, you still have to crack on. I do understand though, op - I was the parent with no support so I do get it. Only way to think of it is to realise while you’re worse off than her, there’s worse off than you (sounds harsh but isn’t meant to be!!).