Does anyone else struggle being pregnant at the same time as friends?

[SophieRules]

This is my first pregnancy but I can’t stand only talking about pregnancy and babies and the comparisons have already started. Like guessing what kind of parents us and our partners will be etc It concerns me because this will never ends as the kids will be the same age forever obviously so it’ll be comparison about how they are doing at school, relationships etc how do you manage this? I’m already struggling, hoping I’m not alone in this.

I was pregnant at the same time as my best friend and loved it. Always someone to support me and know exactly what I was going through, someone else to ask if xyz was ‘normal’ get some reassurance and a friend for my DD to grow up with from birth.

There were obviously times it got annoying but the good outweighed the bad for me. If it’s different for you or putting a downer on your journey in anyway then might be best to create a bit of distance between you both.

I know this sounds daft but I'm assuming you've tried changing the subject without success? I think talking about the same thing all the time would do my head in too. Any subject wears thin after long enough.

Competitive parenting is soooo dull.

Just change the subject every time.

Nip it in the bud! "Come on, we don't need to be comparing them to each other. Let's wait and see how they turn out" "They're not even born yet and we're deciding their future!"

Stop it now, make it clear you don't do competitions and make them realise how silly they sound. If they continue, keep yourself at a distance from them.

Sounds like you have crap mates who want to play competition, how pathetic!

I was pregnant at the same time as a friend, she was due a week after me and she made a MASSIVE thing about “Ooh I wonder who will give birth first” and kept sending messages like “Any sign of bubba yet? I’m hoping I’ll beat you haha” and “just to warn you I’m getting twinges, I may get there first, let’s see how today goes!”

It fucked me off not just because any adult using the word ‘bubba’ should have by law their head impaled on a spike, but because there were health problems with my baby’s organ that I was having constant scans for, and it was a very very nervous time for me (the health issue couldn’t be fully clarified until he was born) and she was turning it into a pathetic little race. I just stopped replying to her in the end, and haven’t seen her again (DS is now 8 and luckily mostly healthy apart from a condition managed well with medication). I did however message her when DS was born, I couldn’t help it, I sent her a picture of him with the caption “I win!”