Why do men….

[Fruitandnuts]

Is it a universal law that when us women are sick with flu - chills, aches, headaches that almost 24 hours later your DP will declare
’i don't feel well either’ ‘I think im sick too’

i metaphorically punched him in the face when he said it (don’t worry i love him really). I just find it fascinating!
Especially when i am not able to help with the baby and trying to recover he keeps coming into the bedroom and asking do i need anything but with DD in his arms and i know he wants to pass her to me 🙄

tell me I'm not alone ?

It's almost as if the sex of the person doesn't affect whether a virus spreads to someone else living in close quarters!

he has dressed DD but put her jumper on the wrong way around, buttons meant to go to the back 🫣 its not the biggest deal in the world but again why not take 2 seconds to find the label. Over the neck, check the label and swing it the right way.
there is a massive pile of washing to be done, lets see if he sees it or has selective eyesight.

Maybe the way to avoid this is to not mention feeling unwell till an hour or so before they are due to go to golf, cycling, football whatever. Can you imagine their inner turmoil…. Can’t say they are ill too and still go

I feel incredibly lucky that my partner does not do this, "man flu" and other such terms don't exist in our house! When he's unwell he doesn't say a word about it, just quietly takes tablets and gets on with everything as usual. To be completely honest I'm the wuss when it comes to this in our household 🙈

Dh does this. But sort of only in passing.
Weirdly, we never catch the other's actual illnesses. Never have done. And the kids don't ever seem to get ill at all, whereas I always seemed to have a cold in my teens.

I had frozen shoulder for about two years - it was agony! For a while I couldn't even drive and was on such strong painkillers I was a zombie. Couldn't bear to be touched.

DH claims he had the same condition for a week....

How convenient a man has commented to disagree.

No it's doesn't happen in our household. If I'm ill, I'll go to bed or lay on the sofa. Hardly any housework gets done though!

I would assume that two people who live in close proximity will catch each other's viruses, and so get ill in succession.

If you're always the first to catch viruses from outside the house then it might be worth considering what you can do with respect to handwashing, etc, to reduce the number of infections you pick up.

A teacher friend of mine used to catch viruses all the time from school or travel in the underground, but managed to stop it almost entirely when she stopped biting her nails.

Yes and it's not just illness either. I had the day from hell at work after a 15 hr shift. I said that my brain felt frazzled.
He said his did too. I was then worried and asked him why and what he had been up to (as I knew he had the day off so I assumed something very stressful must have happened to make him feel frazzled). He said he had taken his 12 year old son to the Aquarium.

at least we can have a sense of humour about it 😆
maybe its a sense of misery loves company when you say you’re ill 🤧

If he had real flu, he wouldn't be able to take tablets and get on with it. I can work through a cold or mild virus as can my dh. But actual flu knocks you for six and that's not a reflection on someone's character...

@Comedycook yes agreed, however I actually meant "man flu" in the colloquial sense, as in the term describing men as experiencing more severe symptoms with common colds etc

My husband is not like this at all, but I have a friend whose husband is. She suffers from debilitating migraines and he always finds an ailment of his own so he doesn’t have to help. I really don’t know how she puts up with him.

I get the opposite. DP doesn't ever admit that he's feeling ill, carries on regardless until he's passed it to me and then says he's had it for a couple of days when I'm wondering exactly why I feel so crappy.

As I'm on medication to try to keep my immune system at a more normal level of activity and not everything is preventable through vaccination, I'd far rather he said something and took to his sickbed kept the hell away from me.

Still means that he doesn't do anything much about it until he's too ill to function and it would help if the NHS would give adults the chance to catch up with childhood vaccinations (his father was an original antivaxxer) instead of having to try and keep an eye on a man with Whooping Cough.

I certainly didn't appreciate the Covid he gave me through not mentioning he had a sore throat and temperature (before the vaccines came out), as I'd only just stopped having abnormalities in my heart rhythm from the first time - if I'd known, I'd have slept in the spare room instead of having him breathe and cough over me all night.