Tell me beautiful love stories

Youarenowaybeingunreasonable · 2025-01-01T21:43:06+00:00

If you left an unhappy marriage/relationship and now have a happy one and how different it is, how long it took to meet and how you met ❤️ I need hope of a brighter future

Forgottobuymincepies · 01/01/2025 21:48

I threw a lying deceitful (not cheating) dh out one June.... No regrets at all. Met my now dh in November of that year. Married 20 months later.. Have a dc now also. Been together over 12 years.. A great, honest man. Can't be many left imo.

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Youarenowaybeingunreasonable · 01/01/2025 21:56

Forgottobuymincepies · 01/01/2025 21:48

I threw a lying deceitful (not cheating) dh out one June.... No regrets at all. Met my now dh in November of that year. Married 20 months later.. Have a dc now also. Been together over 12 years.. A great, honest man. Can't be many left imo.

Did you have dc already? How did you meet your now dh?
How different did it feel, do you wish you‘d done it much sooner?

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Spondoolie · 01/01/2025 22:19

Aw yes, how lovely.
I can’t believe how wonderful and lovely my man is. I left a 15 year controlling marriage 4 years ago and met my DP 2 years ago. Such an easy joyful relationship. I didn’t know life could be like this

MrsTerryPratchett · 01/01/2025 22:20

Dumped arsehole. A few years, some dating, met lovely DH.

But I wasn't going to settle. I would have stayed alone if I'd had to.

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Youarenowaybeingunreasonable · 01/01/2025 22:21

Spondoolie · 01/01/2025 22:19

Aw yes, how lovely.
I can’t believe how wonderful and lovely my man is. I left a 15 year controlling marriage 4 years ago and met my DP 2 years ago. Such an easy joyful relationship. I didn’t know life could be like this

That’s amazing 🤩 how did you meet, did you have any Dc?

Glad you got out

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QueenofallIsee · 01/01/2025 22:27

I ended my 17 year relationship the day I dropped my daughter at university. I realised that the years had raced by and I was going to sending off the younger kids in a blink of an eye and be left in a house with a man who didn’t even like me that much. I met my now husband 8 months later (not looking, we met in a bar through mutual friends by accident) and it was genuinely as though something in my head said ‘oh there you are, I’ve been waiting for you’ . He says he loved me in the first 5 mins and then spent a good amount of time trying to hide it as it made no logical sense to be so sure of an almost stranger.

We have been married 7 years and it is like a sleepover with my best friend every night. I didn’t think it was possible to be this contented or well matched.

LoveRules · 01/01/2025 22:32

Same as @QueenofallIsee although did not meet in a bar. Dumped miserable ragey shouty husband of twenty years when he assaulted our slight and vulnerable 15 year old. Did 5 years of OLD for promiscuous lols and met my now fiancée on Tinder in early 2023. Have bought a house together. It genuinely is like having a sleepover with my best friend every night. Our kids all get on amazingly well.
We consider ourselves to be very very fortunate.

Paradisegained · 01/01/2025 22:33

I grew up in a very dysfunctional family with abusive parents.

I married at 30 and he was older. It was awful and he hit me - I divorced at 31. At 34 I had a baby on my own having been in a totally unsuitable relationship and another baby at 41, in a relationship but he was awful. I thought it was me. I was broken. I didn’t deserve nice or decent or normal. In fact I didn’t know what normal was.

Decided to ‘fix’ myself and embarked on counselling and having trauma therapy after 20 years of anti depressants and damaging behaviours. My friends used me, I was terrified and enmeshed with violent narcissistic parents. I was a good Mum and good at my career but personal life a disaster. It took me 4 years of not dating, not looking.

I met DP through a friend on a blind date and I wasn’t fussed about going. I’m now in my 50s, getting married this year to my best friend. He is an equal partner, loving, kind, clever, funny and loyal and backs me and we are buying our forever house - deposit down and exchange in a couple of weeks. I absolutely adore my DP. My DP is a great step dad to my children and he makes me whole - I was happy and healed when I met him and he makes me bigger than my parts. We can do anything together. He’s my safe space, my harbour, and in less than 12 weeks I will be his wife forever. So yes, after years of misery I got myself in a good place and said yes to be best thing ever. On paper I wouldn’t have gone on a date with him - not my type and yet he is actually everything I wanted. We both love history, art, reading etc I might have waited nearly 50 years but he was worth waiting for.

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Youarenowaybeingunreasonable · 01/01/2025 22:55

QueenofallIsee · 01/01/2025 22:27

I ended my 17 year relationship the day I dropped my daughter at university. I realised that the years had raced by and I was going to sending off the younger kids in a blink of an eye and be left in a house with a man who didn’t even like me that much. I met my now husband 8 months later (not looking, we met in a bar through mutual friends by accident) and it was genuinely as though something in my head said ‘oh there you are, I’ve been waiting for you’ . He says he loved me in the first 5 mins and then spent a good amount of time trying to hide it as it made no logical sense to be so sure of an almost stranger.

We have been married 7 years and it is like a sleepover with my best friend every night. I didn’t think it was possible to be this contented or well matched.

I love that, so lucky 🍀

What were the everyday differences between being with your ex and him? Did you just sort of accept it for all those years?

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MessyNeate · 01/01/2025 23:14

Ex DH was controlling. Emotionally abusive, an alcoholic, he once spat in my face during a row. He did nothing to help me with the house, or the 3DC. When I left him I used to wake up to 80+ abusive long essay messages about how I had destroyed his life he tried to sleep with my best friend. That was the final straw for me.

I met my current DH 4 years ago. We lived in the same village after I "escaped to the village" , drank in the same local pub, he knew my friends and I knew his but we had never met before. It was his birthday the day we met.

Life has changed wonderfully since I met him, we got married just 12 weeks ago 😊

Notrynajudge · 01/01/2025 23:17

I adopted cats instead. I love them, they love me and DC.

TaylorSwish · 01/01/2025 23:18

I am NOT crying at these stories at all! ❤️

name1234noidea · 01/01/2025 23:18

These stories give me hope. I'm so disillusioned with men that I have given up even trying to date.

Forgottobuymincepies · 01/01/2025 23:20

Had no dc with exh but I did have dc.. We met in a bar... He had no dc or an exw....
He was 10 years my junior also!!

Lafee · 02/01/2025 00:19

name1234noidea · 01/01/2025 23:18

These stories give me hope. I'm so disillusioned with men that I have given up even trying to date.

Don't give up hope in anything you believe in.
Being on your own is way healthier for you (and any dc) than being unhappy or terrified, or ground down...
When you're lonely in your own home, that might sound bad, but far worse is to feel lonely when you're in a relationship and it's not fulfilling you.

I believe there is always "hope"... and even if it comes later, way down the line, isn't it wonderful to have happiness for even a short time.
We all deserve happiness and fulfilment, whether we are 18, 28, 38 48, 58, 68, 78, or 98 and beyond.
In the right relationship, it's not just you that's gaining, but also your partner, as they will have found their bliss by being with you...
I hate wait til I was mid forties to finally get it right...it's not easy, but you need the strength to hold out for your kind of hero.
Don't "settle" for something near what you'd want... that's not fair to either of you, or anyone that is close to you and wants the best for you.
Best wishes to all who are being the strong warriors you are....

Paradisegained · 02/01/2025 01:37

QueenofallIsee · 01/01/2025 22:27

I ended my 17 year relationship the day I dropped my daughter at university. I realised that the years had raced by and I was going to sending off the younger kids in a blink of an eye and be left in a house with a man who didn’t even like me that much. I met my now husband 8 months later (not looking, we met in a bar through mutual friends by accident) and it was genuinely as though something in my head said ‘oh there you are, I’ve been waiting for you’ . He says he loved me in the first 5 mins and then spent a good amount of time trying to hide it as it made no logical sense to be so sure of an almost stranger.

We have been married 7 years and it is like a sleepover with my best friend every night. I didn’t think it was possible to be this contented or well matched.

I feel like this about my DP he fell in love and knew he wanted to marry me on date 2, I was date 4. It was oh hi, there you are. Just no stress and no drama just him.

Spondoolie · 02/01/2025 09:27

Youarenowaybeingunreasonable · 01/01/2025 22:21

That’s amazing 🤩 how did you meet, did you have any Dc?

Glad you got out

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We met on bumble. My first and only date. I joined it after a year of being single and doing ALL the work on myself. I found out what I really loved doing by myself, enjoyed my own company, went to the theatre alone etc. It was brilliant and put a spring in my step that had disappeared.
My DC are 12 and 14. DPs are early 20s. It hasn’t been easy with my younger one so we have taken it slowly and don’t plan to live together for some time yet.
In general, life just works. It is calm, fun, smooth and a joy to experience

Buggabootwo · 02/01/2025 09:45

Bad relationship ended and I was on my own for 20 years. I was happy and fulfilled with my own life. Tried OLD on and off but it was awful so I decided to delete it. One last flick through and there was a guy local to me. One last throw of the dice and I found the one I have been waiting for. I am so in love and I have never been happier and, guess what, it just the same for him.

Foison · 02/01/2025 10:13

Split from lying, dull, porn addicted DH 1, with whom I had little in common (it was actually quite an amicable split which took a few years to complete - divorced on grounds of separation ) met lovely, decent DH2 whilst separated & been happily together for 22 years. On paper it probably all looked very fast and reboundy but it didn't feel like that and he's forever the one for me!