To be anxious the day my son’s father introduces him to other woman?

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My DS dad likes to work his way through woman.. him and I split and I really am not looking forward to the day my DS who is under 1 meets his next girlfriend. Please don’t get this wrong, it is not out of jealousy. Hand on heart, if he could meet a girl and be genuinely happy and settled it would be absolutely great for my DS to see his dad loving another woman correctly, but he is not capable.
he is a monster. I left due to domestic abuse which spiralled after my DS was born. Sexual, mental, psychological, you name it. Ofcourse the signs were there before. I was just indinial.

Since we split, I found out his ex has a restraining order against him (or had I’m not too sure) due to DA and his other child’s mum ran a mile from him due to abuse. He uses woman to get what he wants.
he used to introduce women to his other children like it was nothing and there were 4 of them in total that he introduced them to. I know you are thinking why go near him. I was younger then and younger than him, and he obviously knew how to get control very quickly and I fell head over heels in a matter of 3 weeks (I know - love bombed).

i have spoke to authorities and they said if he poses no threat to the child, it is safe for him to see DS and to be fair he is a good dad.

However I am worried that my son will see the disrespect to the possible future women, too and he disrespected me infront of his other kids and I am worried he may do the same to another woman infront of my son and my son think it’s ok to treat woman that way.

ofcourse il do my best to teach him to be a gentleman however boys look up to their dad🥺. I’m really worried the day he introduces him to another woman if it is going to go the same way as all the rest of his relationships 😞. AIBU? Has this happened to anyone before?

Isn't there something like Claires Law, where abusive men are reported, and subsequently new partners can "look up" new men and .... she could be advised to look him up and make her own decision, one you were never given. Obviously you wouldn't tell her, but someone could.

https://clares-law.com/

well first of all he is not a good dad. A man who treats the mother of his kids in this way is by definition, not a good dad. There's nothing to be done now about the fact you have shackled yourself to this POS. I would hope and pray he loses interest in your son and you can keep your distance. It really isn't always the case that contact is better than not. If he has contact and there are no restrictions in place there isn't much you can do other than wait it out. Please do not rush into anything else with anyone else anytime soon.

I don't think anyone would tell her though, would they? Authorities wise?

I'm really hoping this happens but I don't know if it will. He is very much a "Facebook dad" he loves to show him off on FB but he is fine to do a no show for him this evening probably because of being hungover. Thankfully DS is too young to understand 🥺

Not wanting to spell it out, but you or someone anonymous tells any new lady friend that they may want to invoke Claires Law...

Anyone mentioned to me to think of Claires Law when I started seeing a new man, I'd be absolutely checking that out.

This does depend on you having reported him for something abusive when you were together.

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