to ignore message from sister

[mollymazda]

I have a very complicated relationship with my siblings, 2 are completely no contact, 1, no issues just drifted apart but still polite and acknowledge birthdays, anniversaries etc and then there is my youngest sister!

To say there is a love/hate relationship is an understatement. She is a deeply unhappy person, has found herself in a loveless marriage and is nasty and spiteful. She has, on 2 occasions tried to sleep with my then partners, and has made efforts to strike up a friendship/relationship with my now DH.

I try go no contact, then she will message me, sending photos of whereabouts she is for a day out, or say something like 'guess where i am' and a photo of a concert or gig. and thats it i'm drawn in, i reply politely and before i know it she's back asking for favours, making me feel aweful and then suddenly for no reason she will ghost me? It's very odd behaviour...

So last night, I knew it would be coming and hey presto at 8.30, the message arrives, wishing me Happy New Year and Happy Anniversary (its our wedding anniversary on NYE).

I deleted the message without replying One of my NY resolutions is to totally remove myself from this toxic relationship with her. She only gets in touch when she needs something, and when she gets in touch my own MH takes a nosedive.

AIBU by ignoring her? (If i am honest i know the answer but i have very low self confidence)

I am absolutely not the type to walk away from people easily. But in this case, you are doing the right thing!

It's fine what you did. There's no planet on which she's doing it for your benefit so nothing to feel bad about. Stay resolved.

i think she's sussed it out.. i ignored her new years message (she will have seen i read it) and today i receive another message from her telling me where she is.. why is it when i'm trying to ignore/ghost she gets in touch with me more often than when i'm not 😂

Because she wants attention. Block her?

You need to block her that's the obvious response?

I think it's nice to reply and be polite and say it back but you don't have to be drawn in to other rubbish

If you want to remain LC Just don't get drawn in.

Or Block her and go 100% NC?

You are totally right to not put up with toxic relatives. Even if they are your sister.

Perhaps have some therapy yourself to help with this resolve and help you understand how not to get drawn in?