Upbeat nye thread… what was your final straw?

[Bitmorebroken]

Just that really… won’t be able to reply as family here, but what was the final straw that made you realise divorce was your only option. Mine is watching him with my children. He doesn’t give a flying fuck about playing board games, about their interests, about mine, about our film choices. Nothing. He’s so selfish. It’s what he wants or nothing. It hurts to even look at him. Can’t stand the way he breathes, or his face. It’s probably over.

Oh and I’ve been sober for 4 months because I realised the abuse was worse if I was drunk. Somehow I believed the arguments were my fault. I’d forget the next day how cruel he was. Since being sober I’ve realised how horrid he is. But I’m “no fun” anymore. So poor him on nye with a “boring af wife who just wants to stay in with the kids”.

I don't know you but I'm fucking proud of you. Here's to your 2025!

It was October 2020. He'd been unemployed for several months. I was making a cheese sandwich for our 2 year old's lunchbox (he'd just started preschool). We'd run out of cheese we normally use so I used some of the more expensive cheese he had bought. I didn't think anything of it until a few days later when he came into the lounge one evening demanding to know why I had opened this cheese of his. I told him it was for our child's lunch. He complained at me that it was HIS CHEESE.

Selfish wanker, resenting his toddler a fucking cheese sandwich.

When he held being abused as a child against me.

When he stopped being intimate with me after I got pregnant and moved into the spare room after DD was born!

Its really silly but… I had been to see a friend (I only did this once every 2 months because he was a controlling wanker) - I said I was staying for tea at my friends house, and he had a massive rant as I was 5 mins late home (traffic was bad) and I had eaten and he hadn’t. I just hated him at that point.

Lots of little things, but mainly that deeds never followed words. 2 years ago tomorrow I knew I needed divorce, took until July this year for me to follow it through. 2025 should see the final divorce issued, and a new start. Can not come soon enough.