My partner

[RedOtter91]

My partner is driving me absolutely insane. Everytime we take our baby somewhere he has to be on facetime to his parents. Today we took our 9 month old to a soft play area for the first time and he face times his parents.
We can't seem to enjoy anything together as a little family. Its really bizarre I've spoken to him about it but he sees no issue with it. He could just take a video or pictures to show them afterwards.

He will move on soon enough. He's just proud.

For a few minutes, or the whole time? A few minutes, fine, who cares. The whole time? They'll stop picking up soon enough.

For a few minutes, for every single time we do something. We don't live together and even when he facetimes us daily his parents are always there we never get any sort of privacy he's such a mummy's boy iys ridiculous

If it's a few minutes I don't see what the problem is? You have your family time when he's finished his call. He just wants to involve his family with your baby

he's such a mummy's boy iys ridiculous

and yet you had kids with him?

So I think the issue actually is that you don't live together so this feels like more of an intrusion. Is that something you can change?

Why don't you live together if you have a baby?

My pregnancy wasn't planned I was on contraception. Tbh I didn't know that he had such a close relationship to his mother at the time as he was forever arguing with her and acted like he hated her It was only since I became pregnant that he has been all about his mother. We don't live together as our relationship isn't that great and don't want our child to be subjected to that until we either fix it or break up

I think it's nice that he wants to involve his parents in his baby's life. If it's just a few minutes, it's hardly ruining your outing. You sound jealous, why do you have a problem with him being close to his family?

It’s just for a few minutes. You get to have family time for the rest of the time. It’s obvious you hate them from your posts so good luck with it all

Yeah the facetiming really isn't your biggest issue here.

Hang on a minute

You have a baby with someone you don't live with?!
Why are you not living together?
Does he live with his parents?

You've got bigger problems than facetiming

I think it's lovely that a guy wants to share the happiness of being with his child with his family. Just think what it would be like if he didn't care about your baby and you didn't have nice times together. Sounds to me like you have a lovely dad for your child. At least he cares. There's a lot of men out there that don't. If it's only for a few mins is it really worth being upset about?

Yeah I wouldn’t worry about the FaceTiming that will die down. Focus on co parenting

I'm not jealous of his family. It's a long story as why I dont want to live with him but to sum it up he's behaviour mainly he doesn't respect me, belittle and criticises me and his family are exactly the same. He's really changed since I became pregnant. He won't do anything to change after speaking to him about it several times.

I just feel his fmailys negativity just ruins times that are supposed to me nice.

he doesn't respect me, belittle and criticises me and his family are exactly the same

so why are you still with him? He doesn't stand up for you to his family, and all the rest of the comments, he sounds like a super dude... Plan your exit and leave the trash behind, or spend the next 5 yrs trying and hooing itll change, moaning living unhappy before you then come to your senses and break it off.

Maybe he does it because he knows it annoys you,

maybe he does it because he thinks you don't allow his family to be a party to the child (so he has to ).

maybe he does it because he knows your relationship isn't his happy place and his family are his only "safe/nice" space with whom he can enjoy family time.

Not sticking up for him, just raising possibilities as to why, each of them has connotations,

Who does this current boyfriend live with?